OpE Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Like the title says my ex recently called out of the blue. We were together for about 2 years we fell pretty hard and fast. It was as if we had known each other or were old friends. She suffered from anxiety that most times she managed. There were pretty tough times when she got in a rut and it was tough. Her parents had moved out of state about a year before I met her and she was planning to go back with them before we met. She is in her late 30s and sometimes has problems with social situations. Anyhow, I'm here because of the way she called after about 10 months. She called and said "hey baby how are you?" I said fine in shock. She then said "where are you going?" I sounded kind of disgusted or angry and said home. There was a silence and she hung up. When I got home I sent her a text saying if she had misdialed me no worries and to take care. It was pretty cold but I really thought she may have been calling someone else, realized it then hung up. I wanted to get to the bottom of it.. She didn't respond that night so the following morning I sent her a final text asking her to delete my number so she would have any accidents. I also said she broke my heart when she called me up and called me "baby". She did respond saying she did want to talk and apologized. She went on to say had skin cancer and it had been successfully treated. She also is being treated for her anxiety although she still has problems. While we were together she basically refused to seek treatment so that one of the reasons I decided on NC. For her and my mental sanity. We sent a few messages back and forth and that was that. If she said or texted what she really had to say I didn't. Would it be dumb of me to email her a message saying how I feel about her calling and the whole situation?
BC1980 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Just leave it be. I think she just wanted some attention and was curious about you. She basically wanted to tell you all about her and what she had been doing. So she's not really that concerned with you it would seem. Don't open up to her again because you will only get hurt.
Chi townD Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Dude, I hate to break it to you. But, I agree with your original assessment. That call wasn't meant for you. You don't call your Ex up 10 months later and call him or her "baby". If that call was meant for you; was the case, she would have been a little more humbled and nervous with the call. Keep on moving on.
Author OpE Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 Thanks Chi I follow you. I do care for her but am not hung up. She was a very nice girl. After I got that call It did trip me out that's why I wanted to know if she did misdial me. Would have been better for her to apologize and hang up or not respond to my text the next day. Thanks people! Dude, I hate to break it to you. But, I agree with your original assessment. That call wasn't meant for you. You don't call your Ex up 10 months later and call him or her "baby". If that call was meant for you; was the case, she would have been a little more humbled and nervous with the call. Keep on moving on.
lil hoodlum Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Not trying to be cynical, but the first thing that popped up in my mind was that with Christmas just around the corner maybe she just didn't want to be alone or single during this time. I really don't know, maybe there is more to it than that.
Author OpE Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 I was thinking the same thing too re the holidays coming up. She called on Tuesday Thanksgiving week.. I'm under no delusions and would not get back with this girl but want to know what she might be thinking. Not trying to be cynical, but the first thing that popped up in my mind was that with Christmas just around the corner maybe she just didn't want to be alone or single during this time. I really don't know, maybe there is more to it than that.
barky2 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Technology now a days...if she hasn't called or texted you in 10 months...it's highly unlikely that was a mistake. She threw a worm out, you bit..she knows it. If she's got something to say she'll say it. Obviously she doesn't. Chalk it up to she was thinking about you and called you...that's it. Now you know better. Leave her be. Don't text or email her. Exs always pop back up with this bogus crap. Once you wrote to her saying she broke your heart bc she said the word baby to you... She knew she had you and holds the power. Do not contact her. Barky
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