sm2281 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I am at a loss. I have contacted this forum several times about the behavior of this guy. I really am falling hard for this guy. It makes me worry about my sanity. It's almost like he doesn't know the rules engagement. He says he does, but he isnt following them. I ask for him to relieve himself of his lady friends (he has alot of them) "because he grew up with alot of women" He continues to keep alot of women around him. I have agreed yes, good friends, but why would you keep a bunch of ladies around after repeated requests to give up the ladies man rep. But, he takes me home to meet his family. In an earlier post, I was worried that he didnt want to take me in public. I ask for 50/50 and that's great. But he never contributes unless I ask and even then he complains. I buy him gifts. He says he loves me and wants to move in together, but he doesn't make plans to do so. He still won't delete his ex from his face book. I have no idea who his friends are and just have barely met his family after 7 months. I dunno. I am at a loss. On the one hand, he is a great human being. But on the other hand I feel like I'm left with the short end of the stick. Maybe i have one of those good man bad boyfriends. I don't know what to do. I really need some honest answers from people who have felt like this before. I have lingered on each situation before, focusing on how to fix it, but I am just not sure I want this task. . . . .I am falling in love with a guy, and it's mainly about the money. But really, it's not even about that -- it's about his willingness to reciprocate. I buy gifts and dinners, and treats etc but he never reciprocates. But I love who he is, Just tired of giving it everything and getting almost nothing in return. what would you do? stay in or break up?
Jules Dash Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I don't think it will work to be frank. You won't accept him as he is including his lady friends and he doesn't reciprocate. You can't ask someone to give up their friends. You either have to accept them or not. You just have to find someone who ideas of having friends of the opposite gender is compatible with yours but never demand that your partner give them up. You will always look like a jealous, controlling girlfriend. If someone doesn't reciprocate, they either don't have it in themselves to do so or they don't feel the same way as you do. Neither is good for you.
Author sm2281 Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 I don't think it will work to be frank. You won't accept him as he is including his lady friends and he doesn't reciprocate. You can't ask someone to give up their friends. You either have to accept them or not. You just have to find someone who ideas of having friends of the opposite gender is compatible with yours but never demand that your partner give them up. You will always look like a jealous, controlling girlfriend. If someone doesn't reciprocate, they either don't have it in themselves to do so or they don't feel the same way as you do. Neither is good for you. it's not that. it's that he is a ladies man so to speak and he seems unwilling to give up the ladies in the friendzone. There are 2 types of friends....REAL friends, and those we keep around for other obvious reasons. I have faith in my own relationship and i am not jealous, i just don't like the idea. It's about give and take. And there is absolutely no reason for his ex to be hanging around. That's what I think about that. Why doesnt he reciprocate? I have no idea. Maybe he just isnt thoughtful. I can live with that. And the female friends. Just as long as they arent constantly down his back (thye are, he doesnt say anything) That is my problem.
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