Jewel_cupcakes Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 (edited) Like I said I totally am in love with two people. So, well man #1, let's call him Jack. Jack has been with me through a pregnancy where I lost my babies father. And he was there in the delivery room with my natural child birth. He loves my son to no end and he is an amazing Psudo daddy. My family LOVES him. He has had many different jobs in the past year jumping place to place never satisfied. He loves me to no end and takes care of me to the best of his means. But the huge down fall is he is the biggest bore I've ever had in the sheets. I mean I just lay there and want it to be over. I have tried everything to this day, I've read books browsed the Internet to try and bring out something in him. I have sat him down and told him my every fantasy and he just blah. Are sex life is the worst ever on the planet. Oh and he was living with my parents till we broke up a month ago. So then there is guy #2, let's call him Tom. Tom I met at work. He has met my son a few times and really is intent on me and him being serious. He also takes good care of me to the best of his means. He has a lot of responsibility and loves his animals, and his jeep. Now there is a big age gap between us. It's 20 years. But I am a very mature soul. His family adores me. I'm nervous about my family meeting him. And one very interesting factor in this is Tom has a arm that hangs and doesn't work and he has one leg and the other leg he doesn't have one from just above your knee down so he wears a prosthetic leg. But our sex life is a absolute blast he is so much fun! He is the freaky kinky Mandingo I've dreamed about. Like every fantasy made when we're together. My family's opinion matters to me and they don't seem to care for #2 because of his disability and introducing my son to someone new. Also guy #1 is much cuter in person. They both love me so uncontrollably much Edited December 2, 2014 by Jewel_cupcakes
NJ123 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 From what you stated it seems you'd be more compatible with guy #2, but your family doesn't think so. And you said their opinion matters to you. With guy #1 if everything is great except your sex life is absolutely horrible, than it possibly won't last long term unless sex won't be as important to you as you get older. And you said you two broke up a month ago...... Confused on why you'd want to be with him after breaking up with him in the first place. What makes you think it'll work out a second time?
Author Jewel_cupcakes Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 From what you stated it seems you'd be more compatible with guy #2, but your family doesn't think so. And you said their opinion matters to you. With guy #1 if everything is great except your sex life is absolutely horrible, than it possibly won't last long term unless sex won't be as important to you as you get older. And you said you two broke up a month ago...... Confused on why you'd want to be with him after breaking up with him in the first place. What makes you think it'll work out a second time? You know when I wrote all this out I must have just spelled it all out for myself. It's just I wanted to see if maybe we could work things out on a sexual level and he got really close to my little one. It's just hard because honestly breaking up with someone because he isnt good in bed is really low. But it seems to be really bothering me.
NJ123 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 You know when I wrote all this out I must have just spelled it all out for myself. It's just I wanted to see if maybe we could work things out on a sexual level and he got really close to my little one. It's just hard because honestly breaking up with someone because he isnt good in bed is really low. But it seems to be really bothering me. That seems to be a common reason for people breaking up. If your sex life sucks, than you'll possibly resent him eventually. Just imagine being married to him, and you'll have a lifetime of awful sex. He seems like a really good guy, but you two aren't sexually compatible which is unfortunate.
Thegreatestthing Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Yes it's pretty possible to love three, four,five people for various reasons. I'm having a similar problem I love my bf,he does everything for me,he's cute,he's interesting but I don't feel much attraction for him. My friend is just as interesting and not even as good looking as my bf,but I'm crazy about him,super sexually attracted to him,it's hard for me not to think about fcking him. How important is sex in a relationship really?
Author Jewel_cupcakes Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 Yes it's pretty possible to love three, four,five people for various reasons. I'm having a similar problem I love my bf,he does everything for me,he's cute,he's interesting but I don't feel much attraction for him. My friend is just as interesting and not even as good looking as my bf,but I'm crazy about him,super sexually attracted to him,it's hard for me not to think about fcking him. How important is sex in a relationship really? Wow. That is so a mirror of what I'm going through. Sex is really important once you break it down. It keeps fun and spontaneity in a relationship. And one way or the other the relationship will wind up ending. I broke up with jack because I wanted to see what being with Tom was like. It was so much fun but I miss the routine of jack. But I can't help but want the fun and craziness that Tom brings to the bedroom and in general we have so much in common! I feel like a player. Because I can't bring myself to choose one.
NJ123 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Wow. That is so a mirror of what I'm going through. Sex is really important once you break it down. It keeps fun and spontaneity in a relationship. And one way or the other the relationship will wind up ending. I broke up with jack because I wanted to see what being with Tom was like. It was so much fun but I miss the routine of jack. But I can't help but want the fun and craziness that Tom brings to the bedroom and in general we have so much in common! I feel like a player. Because I can't bring myself to choose one. Well, from this post all I'll say is do not get back with Jack. You already left him, and you know what you'll be getting into by going back with him. He's a good guy, but the sex sucks & you said sex is really important. You'll eventually probably either wind up breaking up with him yet again or it might even come to the point where you'd even consider cheating since you'd want good sex from somewhere eventually. You don't want to be put in that position.
whichwayisup Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 How about being on your own and not dating anybody for a long while. Your baby's father passed away and guy #1 helped you through that, was there for your baby's birth. You love him, he's a good guy but you aren't sexually attracted to him. Guy #2 is exciting and new, disability or not. You shouldn't be introducing a new guy to your son so soon after ending things with guy #1, that isn't fair to your kid. Take time alone, grow as a person, become self reliant, self sufficient so you won't NEED to rely on a man for everything and to complete you. Bouncing in and out of relationships without time in between to heal and grow is unhealthy. 2
almond Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Take time alone, grow as a person, become self reliant, self sufficient so you won't NEED to rely on a man for everything and to complete you. Bouncing in and out of relationships without time in between to heal and grow is unhealthy. ^ This. And if you absolutely must bounce from one to the other, at least wait a few months to be sure there is something there before introducing your child to these men. Your baby needs stability. Keep your dating and his family life separate until it's long term and serious. 1
Tayken Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 @OP I bet you really are just sayin' Turn that dial all the way Shoot me like a rocket into space Lovin' every minute of it Lovin' every minute of it Lovin' every minute of it, c'mon
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