f1reman Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Hello, I am looking for some advice on this girl I have been dating. We met about 3 months ago. I never believed in love at first sight, but once I met her, I knew it existed. We instantly clicked, However I did not crowd her or overwhelm her. I held back and took it slow. Everything has been great, we have gotten along great. She would stay with me, I would stay with her, etc. Well about 2 weeks ago, we had dinner planned and she asked to meet me somewhere. Out of the blue she told me she fell for me really fast, but she couldn't be with anyone right now. She was crying a lot and apologizing. She told me there was no one else, she swore it wasn't. I told her, I respected her decision and she needs to do whats right for her. We hugged, she kissed me, apologized, and got into her car sitting there crying. She messaged me later that night asking if I was ok, and the next morning just talking. A few days passed and she called and wanted me to come over. We kissed, had sex, I stayed with her. I have tried asking what her reasons were for not wanting to be with me, or if I had done anything, but she always avoids answering. We usually go a day or so and I hear nothing from her. I try to move on and randomly she will text me. I feel she purposely leaves things at my house so she will have an excuse to come over, or me bring to her. When I go there or she comes here, she initiates a kiss with me, we make out, we cuddle, sometimes sex, and she will put my arm around her or grab my hand and interlock our fingers. She friendzoned me, but do friends do that? I take it as we are friends, but she is always the one to kiss me first, hold my hand, wrap my arm around her. It doesn't make sense. Some days she will text me and I will reply with a question, she will open but not respond. So I will go about my business, try to move on and Bam she will text me again randomly. She has said things and I can tell she gets mad or jealous as in someone told her something and she "thought they were gonna tell her I found a new GF". She told me the other night that I was an addiction she couldn't break, and that she didnt wanna break. That it was bad. I asked why bad and she replied, "bad in a good way". We have kissed and she asked "DO I feel that?". She cried again the other night and said she can't fall for me and she knows this girl for me, but thinks she confuses Love with sex.(Was she implying that she was "that girl"? I came for advice because I am so MindFu**** and confused. I won't lie, im crazy about this girl and would do anything and everything I could for her. I have told her how I felt. She knows it's eating me alive, but she continues to do it to me. I have been in long term relationships 5+ years and never felt feelings so fast like I do about this girl. I haven't heard or spoken to her in 2 days now, she has some of my things and I feel she is waiting for me to ask for them back and then Dejavu. What should I do? I wanna just ignore everything, make myself not available to her. But I rather be around her than to make her mad and she never speak again. At the same time It's driving me insane and hurting me. I want to know her reasons but cant get her to tell me them, she dodges the question and changes subject. Please help, any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Invictus01 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Dude, don't stick around as a buddy. It is a torture in the long run.
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