anni2495 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I am a 19 year old guy and was in a relationship with my gf for almost 2 years. During a party she got drunk and cheated on me...she admitted to it and i was really angry...she then texted me that she wanted to break up with me...even though she cheated on me, I was the one pleading and saying sorry so that she would come back...i lost interest in everything and went into depression. i moved to US for my college in august but im still not over her and always dream about her every night...i have started relying on alcohol to deal with my pain and i have lost my friends back home due to depression. I don't know how to move on...i have tried various things to distract myself but after a few days i go back to being depressed and lost in her thoughts and I feel i won't find someone better nor can I love someone again
EgoJoe Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Yes you can. You are better than this. Go to an AA meeting. You can do better than a cheater. Read my thread, even the strongest of us stumble and fall. Objectivity is easier from the third person perspective. Man up and stop drinking and feeling sorry for yourself. You're in school and young. The world is your oyster. 1
Author anni2495 Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 I'm trying to...but some days are very bad and I have no idea what i am doing with my life anymore
EgoJoe Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are worthy of respect and deserve better treatment. This girl had an out of control ego and is selfish. You can and will do better. You will make a new course for yourself and forget about her. Gob to an AA meeting. Get help. 1
newmoon Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 you're just 19. you have a very long road ahead of you and you will definitely find someone else again. it'll just take time. but your post said you moved to a different country? don't waste the opportunities right in front of you by dwelling on this girl and the past. when you finally do move on - and you will - you will regret the time you have already wasted. holidays can be a bad time for people coming out of break-ups, so try to get out more, talk to others more, and put your focus on other things
BC1980 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 You are slipping into addictive behaviors to cope, so you need to start by getting help with that. Someone mentioned AA, which is a good start. You need a therapist if you are depressed. You need someone to walk you through the grief process. What happened to you was terrible, and we have all been there. It's especially bad when you experience a betrayal. Reach out to family to support in finding help. 1
EgoJoe Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I'm 28 and I have quite a few coping skills and the betrayal I experienced in conjunction with the lies, deceit, police etc. Traumatized me to the bone. I have been sober for over six years and still am. I have contacted several therapists and will be going to see them. One foot in front of the other. Every day has the ability to be the next best day of your life. I am already turning things around. You can too! 2
Chuck636333 Posted December 3, 2014 Posted December 3, 2014 Jesus this post scares me!!! I hope I don't last this long...I'm in week 6 of nc and stress has turned to depression...God I feel for ya but this is a hope crusher!
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