No contact after great date

[slizl]

WAIT! I would definitely wait until Wed or Thurs to contact him if you haven't heard form him. If I was him, I would plan on texting you tonight or tomorrow and ask how your weekend was. Wait until Wed night or Thursday and just text him asking how his week is going and do not text again unless he texts you back.

[venusishername]

So when is the date? (those are the sarcastic eyes if you don't get it)

 

The guys here are right in busting you. Most guys will not initiate and ask for a date where you are going to be paying. That's totally weird. Is he supposed to call you up and say "Hey I want you to take me out and pay for sushi this Saturday, are you free?"

 

He drops $170 on the first date and the girls here are already dissing him, "play it cool" "he should be texting you". WTF girls?! Step up or go home.

 

Yeah, I wouldn't have offered to treat him the next time. Pogo is right. He's not going to initiate asking you on your next date where you have already volunteered that you'd be paying! If I've ever 'treated' a date, it's after several dates and consists of a drink or two, after he's already paid for whatever we did prior to that. If it progresses, I like to cook for a man I am dating. That means I really like him and it's my way of thanking him for the money he's been spending on our dates up until that point. I'm old fashioned and I believe in the beginning stages, the woman should not be breaking out her wallet.. but this is an entirely different subject.

 

 

I don't think the amount of money he paid is an issue. What was he supposed to do, not pay the bill? The amount of money a man spends on a date generally doesn't have much bearing on how much he likes the woman.

Since he responded when you texted him after the fact, just give it a few days. If I were you, I'd give it a few days before making the assumption that he just isn't that into you. If you don't hear back from him, then maybe consider sending another text (I think texting is perfectly acceptable after ONE date) and that's it. If that's the case, I'd say something like, 'hope you had a good week, are you free this weekend for a drink?' (which you are not obligated to pay for, btw).

[Leigh 87]

Yeah, I wouldn't have offered to treat him the next time. Pogo is right. He's not going to initiate asking you on your next date where you have already volunteered that you'd be paying! If I've ever 'treated' a date, it's after several dates and consists of a drink or two, after he's already paid for whatever we did prior to that. If it progresses, I like to cook for a man I am dating. That means I really like him and it's my way of thanking him for the money he's been spending on our dates up until that point. I'm old fashioned and I believe in the beginning stages, the woman should not be breaking out her wallet.. but this is an entirely different subject.

 

 

I don't think the amount of money he paid is an issue. What was he supposed to do, not pay the bill? The amount of money a man spends on a date generally doesn't have much bearing on how much he likes the woman.

Since he responded when you texted him after the fact, just give it a few days. If I were you, I'd give it a few days before making the assumption that he just isn't that into you. If you don't hear back from him, then maybe consider sending another text (I think texting is perfectly acceptable after ONE date) and that's it. If that's the case, I'd say something like, 'hope you had a good week, are you free this weekend for a drink?' (which you are not obligated to pay for, btw).

 

 

 

OK - he is NOT that into her if she is the one who had to initiate not only AFTER the date, but also days later to set up another date.

 

Men who are really into a woman will text to arrange another date. Not all men text every day, but most do if they are interested.

[venusishername]

OK - he is NOT that into her if she is the one who had to initiate not only AFTER the date, but also days later to set up another date.

 

Men who are really into a woman will text to arrange another date. Not all men text every day, but most do if they are interested.

 

Well... that is a good point. But I would say it's too soon to completely write it off and it wouldn't hurt to wait a bit and reach out at the end of the week. He may reach out in the meantime.

[Leigh 87]

Well... that is a good point. But I would say it's too soon to completely write it off and it wouldn't hurt to wait a bit and reach out at the end of the week. He may reach out in the meantime.

 

 

 

Not all men text incessantly.

 

However, it is 2014. Everyone has a phone. If they are in their 30's or younger, sorry but they are attached to their phones; they may not text often but they DO have their phone on them, most people of that generation do!

 

Men are simple. When they want something, they make it clear.

 

When a man goes on a date with a woman who knocks his socks off, he texts them to say that he had a good date and wants to do it again sometime. OR the next day he texts. Or the day after he will text and say that he had a great date; he wants to do it AGAIN sometime.

 

It depends what sort of relationship you are seeking. Most relationships start off with the man OR the woman being "meh" about one another.

 

Personally, I am holding out for a guy who is excited by me on date one and who is highly attracted to me and who HAS a drive to want to see me again.

 

The OP can be like most women out there, who settle for guys who just aren't that into them but who don't have better offers that work out, and end up continuing to date the girl they were "whatever, she is nice" about.

 

In short: there is a 99.99 % chance this guy was that taken by the OP. He likely thought she was alright, pretty enough to kiss, a nice enough girl and that is it.

 

That is why he is probably taking his sweet time to get back to her. If nothing better comes up, he will entertain himself with the OP until a girl comes along who does knock his socks off.