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Asking does work! Believe it or not. I know you guys worry about being smooth, but don't worry. Asking is very polite, and if she's into you, she'll think it's cute (I thought it was cute each time a guy has asked me).

 

Other suggestions—I mean ... do you not feel any kind of romantic vibe with this girl? 'Cause most of the time, even if you have a case of nerves, you can kind of tell if the girl is into it.

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Asking does work! Believe it or not. I know you guys worry about being smooth, but don't worry. Asking is very polite, and if she's into you, she'll think it's cute (I thought it was cute each time a guy has asked me).

 

Other suggestions—I mean ... do you not feel any kind of romantic vibe with this girl? 'Cause most of the time, even if you have a case of nerves, you can kind of tell if the girl is into it.

 

Good to know! I always thought that asking would be a big turn off for the girl.

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I think everyone responding to this thread is right. She will always go for the cheek but, really expects you to kiss her. On the next date, you must make a steep climb to avoid being placed in the 'Friend Zone'. You must kiss her (not cheek)', and explore a little deeper physically. I think she is interested and you have a chance. As for not initiating contact, I am in the same boat. It's pretty annoying, unfortunately I have no answer!

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Sounds to me like you initiated paying for things too soon. This girl sounds just like my ex and always wanted to buy her things and pay for activities but wouldn't let me kiss her in public. Make your move and if she rejects you then move on. Don't spend to much time on this girl. 3 months is not long enough to get over someone. My ex was broken up with her ex boyfriend for 2 years before we got together. My ex still loved her ex boyfriend because he was her first love and would always talk about him.

 

Run for the hills dude. Your being taken for a ride.

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Well yesterday was the fourth date, I picked up her at 8 pm and she asked me what was my surprise plan, I told her we were going to the bowling alley and she said it was a good plan. When we arrived there I didn't know that you had to make a reservation in order to play, so they told me that we could return at 10 pm in order to play. In the meantime we went for dinner and we shared a pizza and had a good talk. We walked for some time after the dinner and she told me that we could go bowling another day because if we started playing at 10 we would finish playing late and she had to wake up early in th morning at the next day. So I took her home and we said goodbye with a kiss on the cheek. There was still no kiss on this 5th date. I sent her a text telling her that I had a good time with her and that I didn't knew that you had to make a reservation in order to play bowling but that we could go bowling another day. She replied: Don't worry about it, I had a good time. I am going to sleep, have some rest.

 

Does this sounds good?, its the fourth date and still no kiss, I don't know if she wants to take things slowly considering she broke from a 2 year relationship 4 months ago. I am going to tell her that if she wants to hang out next week at my home so we can see a movie. Ill try to be more intimate with her this time.

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its the fourth date and still no kiss

 

I've told you, everyone told you, you are the one who has to escalate. Don't wait for the magical moment. You need to go further on the next date.

If you wait too long, you're gonna miss the boat. So kiss her already.

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Rov, you have me smacking my forehead over here! Still no kiss! On date four?

 

I don't want to pressure you, and I know you haven't had a lot of dating experience, but by and large, women wait for the man to set the tone in the early stages. Earlier this year, I went out exactly four times with a guy who never did anything but hug me, and at that point I broke it off. It wasn't that I didn't think he was interested—he was, he showed it in other ways—but it was just too slow, there was no chemistry, no spark, I felt like I was hanging out with a guy friend, there was nothing there to build attraction. That was his job, and he didn't do it.

 

How into this girl are you? Are you attracted to her? Do you want to kiss her? Do you get the urge to want to initiate physical contact (whether you act on it or not)? What's stopping you from just going for it (other than nerves)? If she's into you at all, I guarantee that she's wondering the same things.

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I've told you, everyone told you, you are the one who has to escalate. Don't wait for the magical moment. You need to go further on the next date.

If you wait too long, you're gonna miss the boat. So kiss her already.

 

Do you think I still have a chance?. I am planning that the next time Ill hang out with her will be at my place so I have more privacy to get more intimate with her.

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Plan that fifth date for sometime very soon.

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Rov, you have me smacking my forehead over here! Still no kiss! On date four?

 

I don't want to pressure you, and I know you haven't had a lot of dating experience, but by and large, women wait for the man to set the tone in the early stages. Earlier this year, I went out exactly four times with a guy who never did anything but hug me, and at that point I broke it off. It wasn't that I didn't think he was interested—he was, he showed it in other ways—but it was just too slow, there was no chemistry, no spark, I felt like I was hanging out with a guy friend, there was nothing there to build attraction. That was his job, and he didn't do it.

 

How into this girl are you? Are you attracted to her? Do you want to kiss her? Do you get the urge to want to initiate physical contact (whether you act on it or not)? What's stopping you from just going for it (other than nerves)? If she's into you at all, I guarantee that she's wondering the same things.

 

 

Yes of course I want to kiss her, but she never gives any signs of wanting me to do it and Im terrified of getting rejected. I hope that I still have a chance. I will plan the next date with her at my home, so I will have more privacy to get more intimate with her.

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Yes of course I want to kiss her, but she never gives any signs of wanting me to do it and Im terrified of getting rejected. I hope that I still have a chance. I will plan the next date with her at my home, so I will have more privacy to get more intimate with her.

 

Hey man I know how you feel, I was also terrified of getting rejected. I have been seeing this girl for about a month now (4 dates) and I had not kissed her yet. Well, I just got home from our 5th date at her place. We saw a movie and when it was over I said to myself "f**k it.. here goes nothing" and I went for the kiss without even thinking about it and next thing I knew we were making out for like 45 minutes. I guess what I'm trying to say is go for it man! If she's gone out with you this many times then she has to be interested! Good luck man and don't over think it! :)

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Hey man I know how you feel, I was also terrified of getting rejected. I have been seeing this girl for about a month now (4 dates) and I had not kissed her yet. Well, I just got home from our 5th date at her place. We saw a movie and when it was over I said to myself "f**k it.. here goes nothing" and I went for the kiss without even thinking about it and next thing I knew we were making out for like 45 minutes. I guess what I'm trying to say is go for it man! If she's gone out with you this many times then she has to be interested! Good luck man and don't over think it! :)

 

Well I have a problem here, yesterday I asked how her day was going and she said fine, then I asked if she was getting better from the cold she had and she said that she was still sick. Here comes the bad part of the story: After this I showed her one of my youtube videos playing guitar and she replied nothing, so I waited till the afternoon and told her that yesterday when we hanged out I was a bit distracted because I was a little nervous because of my dad´s health, she replied that I had nothing to worry about and that we had a good time. So then I told her that I bought some nice movies that we could see at my house next week and she read the message but never replied. So today I texted her Hey, how are you and she read the message but never replied. I don't know if I should wait till she contacts me or contact her again in a few days and ask what happened. Im a bit worried about this. I bought two tickets last week for a Ringo Starr concert because she agreed to go with me. So I hope she remembers this....

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Well I have a problem here, yesterday I asked how her day was going and she said fine, then I asked if she was getting better from the cold she had and she said that she was still sick. Here comes the bad part of the story: After this I showed her one of my youtube videos playing guitar and she replied nothing, so I waited till the afternoon and told her that yesterday when we hanged out I was a bit distracted because I was a little nervous because of my dad´s health, she replied that I had nothing to worry about and that we had a good time. So then I told her that I bought some nice movies that we could see at my house next week and she read the message but never replied. So today I texted her Hey, how are you and she read the message but never replied. I don't know if I should wait till she contacts me or contact her again in a few days and ask what happened. Im a bit worried about this. I bought two tickets last week for a Ringo Starr concert because she agreed to go with me. So I hope she remembers this....

 

Damn that sucks. If you have already texted her on two separate occasions and she hasn't responded, in my opinion don't go for the third time. It will look way to needy I think. At this point I think you have to wait for her to get back at you before you contact her again.

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I asked her directly what her intentions were and she replied: I think we should leave things like that, nice to meet you. bye

 

So that says it all, there was no interest. God knows why she accepted four dates and on the fourth date she acted very weird. she started calling me dude and took her cellphone out all the time. I was the one who always initiated contact with her and I never read any signs from her for me to kiss her or have physical contact.

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I'm telling you, its because you didn't make the move. Women want men to take charge, especially when it comes to the first kiss.

 

I went on a date with this one girl I knew from back in college. Great date, held interest and conversation the whole way. I normally don't kiss on the first date, nor did I expect to... So when the "goodbye" came, it was the look she gave. Usually if they hold eye contact for more than just a second, it means kiss them. So, I did.

 

But what I'm saying here is if not on the first date, the second date you have to go for a kiss. I'm actually really surprised you got 4 dates without one. Just keep in mind for next time. Sell that ticket and recoup some money, or bring another girl.

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I asked her directly what her intentions were and she replied: I think we should leave things like that, nice to meet you. bye

 

So that says it all, there was no interest. God knows why she accepted four dates and on the fourth date she acted very weird. she started calling me dude and took her cellphone out all the time. I was the one who always initiated contact with her and I never read any signs from her for me to kiss her or have physical contact.

 

I'm sorry to hear it turn out this way but I guess you were extremely inactive with her. I went through this myself - 4 years ago - with a gorgeous girl, who put me in "the friend zone" when she realized I was being too slow with her, physically speaking. I hope you will learn your lesson - just as I did - and good luck in the future.

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I asked her directly what her intentions were and she replied: I think we should leave things like that, nice to meet you. bye

 

So that says it all, there was no interest. God knows why she accepted four dates and on the fourth date she acted very weird. she started calling me dude and took her cellphone out all the time. I was the one who always initiated contact with her and I never read any signs from her for me to kiss her or have physical contact.

 

If she went out with you four times, she was definitely interested at some point. I tend to agree that you should've tried to kiss her by the second date. It just starts to get weird when you go out with a guy several times and he doesn't try to even kiss you!

 

But the fourth date did not go well -- first you told her you had a surprise plan, which turned out to be going bowling. (Really?) Then you didn't bother to call ahead to find out if you needed to book the lanes in advance, so you couldn't even do your surprise plan. (It was a poorly planned plan.) So you end up with a backup plan going for pizza and she ended the date early. Then you decide to invite her to your house (i.e., sex) for the fifth date. You weren't assertive enough for her on dates 1-4, and are going for the homerun on date 5. I think she just decided to cut her losses.

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I asked her directly what her intentions were and she replied: I think we should leave things like that, nice to meet you. bye

 

So that says it all, there was no interest. God knows why she accepted four dates and on the fourth date she acted very weird. she started calling me dude and took her cellphone out all the time. I was the one who always initiated contact with her and I never read any signs from her for me to kiss her or have physical contact.

 

I'm sorry, man, but let this be a lesson for you. You have to make a move.

She definitely was interested. You missed the boat.

 

Don't mope around. Find another girl to date.

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Some girls will go on dates with guys even if they aren't interested. If she shows no signals for a kiss then what does a guy do? What if she even doesn't show signals to hold hands ?

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Some girls will go on dates with guys even if they aren't interested. If she shows no signals for a kiss then what does a guy do? What if she even doesn't show signals to hold hands ?

 

Why would some girls go on dates with guys that they are not interested??. It sounds illogical

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Why would some girls go on dates with guys that they are not interested??. It sounds illogical

 

Probably for the free meals? As lame as it sounds it probably happens all the time though.

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Some girls will go on dates with guys even if they aren't interested. If she shows no signals for a kiss then what does a guy do? What if she even doesn't show signals to hold hands ?

 

Probably for the free meals? As lame as it sounds it probably happens all the time though.

 

Mates, this is much more uncommon than some chumps think. (& also has a hint of misogyny.)

No girl goes on a third and fourth date without some romantic interest.

 

And forget about those mystical "signs". The very fact she replies all the time and doesn't flake should be enough for you to make a move.

 

Y'all just looking for excuses.

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Probably for the free meals? As lame as it sounds it probably happens all the time though.

 

Lol, in this day and age, right.

 

I agree with the above poster. Maybe a woman will go out on one or two dates if she's uninterested (or sussing out interest), but beyond that, to go out sans interest is illogical. There's no way we're going to flip the narrative on rov's post to "the girl was just stringing you along this whole time." No, along with most everyone else here, I feel like must have been into it at some point, but lost interest along the way. That happens, as much as it sucks, and she's not obligated to keep hanging on in there if rov refuses to step up in due time.

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This then begs the question how does one know the difference between being strung along and someone just losing interest?

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This then begs the question how does one know the difference between being strung along and someone just losing interest?

 

Does the difference matter in the grand scheme of things? Especially after only three or four dates?

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