bigntall Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 After a period of NC, we have slowly started talking. Reconciliation has been discussed but there is an issue. The guy that she has been seeing and supposedly broke up with.......she is expecting his baby. And she still wants to reconcile with me.....apparently the baby daddy is not long term relationship material (her words, not mine). Am I missing something?? I have drawn a line in the sand so to speak. I have told her that I would 'try' the reconciliation process but she would have to stop seeing him. I could 'possibly' raise another man's child, 'possibly', but she has to stop seeing him. I do understand that she will have to communicate with him and such, to a point, but is there any reason that she should keep 'seeing' him? Is that an unreasonable request on my part?? We have a long history together and I would love nothing more than to put the family back together but at what cost? If she is not willing to stop seeing this guy I don't see that I even want to get involved. Do I want her back??
EmbeddedCortex Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I don't really know your background, but based on your post alone, I would say the following: 1) Why in the world would you want to take her back if the other guy is in the picture still? 2) Why in the world would you want to take her back only to raise her child with the other guy? Sounds like she clearly wants to just use you to cushion her fall for the baby she is having. How do you know she won't use you for a while then leave you and go back to that guy with his kid? Let her live with her mistakes. 2
NopeNah Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Run far and fast! The amount of insanity you're facing is not good! She(I'm assuming) left you for this guy,gets knocked up and wants to come back? Wow!
idoltree Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Whoa whoa whoa. If she's pregnant with another guy's child, is keeping it, and wants back together with you, it's for the stability and $. Likely the kid's father doesn't want the happy family thing with her, so she's turning back to you. Do you know how/why their relationship ended and can you have confidence in that explanation (i.e. any sources of information other than her)?
dumbass2 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Holy crap!!! This shouldn't really be a question. I can tell that obviously you have feelings for her, but come on....really? there is no way you should even be considering this and I'm pretty open minded on possible reconciliations, but no way in that situation unless you want to end up on the Jerry Springer show (is that even still on?) you did mention something about putting the family back together. Do you have children with her already?
Author bigntall Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 Whoa whoa whoa. If she's pregnant with another guy's child, is keeping it, and wants back together with you, it's for the stability and $. Likely the kid's father doesn't want the happy family thing with her, so she's turning back to you. Do you know how/why their relationship ended and can you have confidence in that explanation (i.e. any sources of information other than her)? That right there is the kicker. Before I even consider talking to her she has to end the relationship with this guy. He is not 'long term' relationship material.....then why stick with him??
Author bigntall Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 Holy crap!!! This shouldn't really be a question. I can tell that obviously you have feelings for her, but come on....really? there is no way you should even be considering this and I'm pretty open minded on possible reconciliations, but no way in that situation unless you want to end up on the Jerry Springer show (is that even still on?) you did mention something about putting the family back together. Do you have children with her already? Yes, we do have children together and as you can imagine, they are not too thrilled about the whole mess. Before she got pregnant, she told me that she was going to end things with this guy so that we could work on us and the family. That would have been a different story. You're right, this shouldn't even be a question.......
dumbass2 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Yes, we do have children together and as you can imagine, they are not too thrilled about the whole mess. Before she got pregnant, she told me that she was going to end things with this guy so that we could work on us and the family. That would have been a different story. You're right, this shouldn't even be a question....... This is totally messed up. Do the right thing for your kids here and stay away from her.
PegNosePete Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Before I even consider talking to her she has to end the relationship with this guy. She can't completely end the relationship with him because he is the father of her child. He will always be a part of her life. 2
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