polaske93 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I have been thinking about her non stop for the last week. Sent a few texts but never got a reply, they were emotional texts that made me sound weak and desperate. This is the longest no contact we have ever gone, it's been about 3 weeks. I wanted to call lastnight but I told myself not to, however lastnight I had a dream about her.. and I really just want some answers.. I just want to call and find out what went wrong, and if she even ever cared.. she started dating a buddy of mine immediately after the breakup, and treats him so much better it seems. However I still miss her, I could never date her again, so I'm not trying to get her back. But she was so much more then a girlfriend to me.. is this pointless and stupid? I feel like I'm still going to try and contact her regardless..
NopeNah Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 Do it! If you want to feel like a complete,utter, jackass! Just like me. I feel completely pathetic, having reached out to her over the weekend and getting no response. Deleted her number from my phone when I woke up today. I still know it,but to actually have to input the numbers takes a bit more effort. 2
Zahara Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 Stop. As a woman, once we're done with you and you keep pestering with emotional reach outs, you will get pushed away even more and worst of all, you will look weak and unattractive. It's done. It's over. Accept it for what it is. She's ignoring you which means she wants nothing to do with you. Pick up your self-respect and dignity from off the floor and move on. Hard as it is, it's your only alternative. 1
Arient Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I have been thinking about her non stop for the last week. Sent a few texts but never got a reply, they were emotional texts that made me sound weak and desperate. This is the longest no contact we have ever gone, it's been about 3 weeks. I wanted to call lastnight but I told myself not to, however lastnight I had a dream about her.. and I really just want some answers.. I just want to call and find out what went wrong, and if she even ever cared.. she started dating a buddy of mine immediately after the breakup, and treats him so much better it seems. However I still miss her, I could never date her again, so I'm not trying to get her back. But she was so much more then a girlfriend to me.. is this pointless and stupid? I feel like I'm still going to try and contact her regardless.. No, no, no and please NO!!!! I broke NC after 5 months, and I still hurted myself like hell. Do you want to go backward with your recovery? Do you want to fall again into the puddle of despair and sadness? If you say yes, then go ahead. But seriously, at this stage, she or no one can give you the answer you want, because what you want is very obvious, you want to get her back. Don't use the excuse "I'm not trying to get her back....", face it, face what is really deep down inside. What do you want out of the NC breaking? What do you hope to get? Nothing good will ever come out from breaking NC in your case and situation right now 3
Chin Up Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 You're going to regret it. A lot. You may not think so now, but you will feel so crappy when she doesn't reply. Or worse, she's at a point where she tells you off and doesn't hold back. You're going to hate that you made yourself look so weak and showed her you are still thinking about her. No good will come of this. Trust us lol we know. Go take a look at all the threads here of people breaking no contact, and how it ends. Everyone has a really "good" reason to do it, and they're sooo in a place where they will be fine with the outcome..then they beat the royal sh*t out of themselves because it didn't go as planned and deep down they knew they shouldn't have gone there. Don't go there. "There" is nothing but a world of hurt. 2
ralfgarnett Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I have been thinking about her non stop for the last week. Sent a few texts but never got a reply, they were emotional texts that made me sound weak and desperate. This is the longest no contact we have ever gone, it's been about 3 weeks. I wanted to call lastnight but I told myself not to, however lastnight I had a dream about her.. and I really just want some answers.. I just want to call and find out what went wrong, and if she even ever cared.. she started dating a buddy of mine immediately after the breakup, and treats him so much better it seems. However I still miss her, I could never date her again, so I'm not trying to get her back. But she was so much more then a girlfriend to me.. is this pointless and stupid? I feel like I'm still going to try and contact her regardless.. Stop, put it down, go outside, take a deep breath, come back inside and splash your face with cold water, now think, do you honestly think it will make any difference the answer is no, so don't do it just don't do it, now go and do something else, something that you do have some control over because you don't have any control over this and all you are doing is pushing her further away, how do I know ? because up until recently I was doing exactly the same thing and it got me no where apart from making a tit of myself and getting no where, good luck mate thinking of you. 1
love2ride Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 Don't do it. I've done it on a number of occasions. She never said anything good. Always stuff that hurt and you end up with more questions than answers. If she cared then she will reach out at some point. They never answer the questions truthfully or straight up. They always give you some answer that could mean a million different things. Then you try and decode what the hell they are actually saying. Then you come up with a bunch of different scenarios and none of them are good. Let go, move forward. If she reaches out even with breadcrumbs in the future. Then at least you know you crossed her mind so that means something. 1
IfiKnewThen Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 i know the feeling. i want answers too. or at least the respect of proper closure.. or..........at this point to tell him how i will never accept this behavior or poor treatment from him again. something... because im really done with the pain. and i too feel the need to purge this frustration somehow. so i do understand. if you are so compelled to do it....write it down...dont get side tracked. say what you wish and dont think u will regret. good luck. if you try this time..make it your last then go full NC. if it is truly eating you alive. we have all been there.
Trapito Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 Here is the longest 'no' you will ever see: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! You will NOT get an awnser, she probably won't even pick up the phone. She didn't reply to your texts, what makes you think she even wants to talk to you? Do not inflict pain on yourself. Do you like pain? Then suuuure.. call her. It will hurt like hell and you will not get the awnser you want to hear. 1
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