College_Girl6767 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 So an old guy friend just recently sent me a message on Facebook after not being in contact for about two and a half years (I moved overseas and just returned a few months ago) and one of the first questions he asked me was if I had met any guys while I was away, which I did, and a few hours later he asked if I had any crushes. He also teased me a few times and sent a lot of emoticons. We have talked almost nonstop since he first contacted me. He even left a voice message on Facebook for me on Thanksgiving, I didn't even know you could do that. Now for some background. Before I moved I knew he liked me and I liked him back at the time. However I also know he kinda liked a friend of mine so I told them both I wouldn't be mad if they dated, which they did, but I also told him that if he did that we couldn't date even if I did come back, something I've changed my mind on. He then broke up with my friend a few months later because they both were starting school soon. Now I'm not sure if he is holding back because of what I said before I left or if I'm just reading too much into it. I'm still pretty inexperienced so I'm sorry if any of this is obvious.
StalwartMind Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 You have nothing to apologize for. It's all going to be speculative guessing anyway. He is probably more than interested in seeing you but who knows. We are all incredibly different and there are endless of ways to approach something. Maybe you want to be pursued, maybe he is shy and wants you to make the move, etc. If it was me I'd just naturally keep building the friendship/relationship you have, at one point if there are mutual feelings between you, it should naturally progress further. Of course you may want things to happen at a faster or slower rate and to be honest, you should do what feels right to you. 1
todreaminblue Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I agree with stalwart its all a guess to his true emotions......unless a guy says hey i like you as more than a friend its all guess work......i prefer guys to give it to me straight up...i deal a lot with people's feelings and always trying to decipher them ....with guys i go out with ....its a lot easier if they are straight forward..and i dont have to puzzle them out.... often that's when you hear things you dont really want to hear...I still prefer that..... with your guy i think as stalwart said its best to just see where it goes.....to let the friendship progress...i am the type of person who would just ask where i stood after a while.....maybe you will feel comfortable enough to do that in time....good luck...deb......
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