Leigh 87 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I have a degree, but I've never dated someone with a degree. I've also never been pursued by someone with a degree. I don't mind it, but I did take offense to the times when they might lash out at me in anger or put me down for being proud of myself academically. I don't care about a man's education, why is he mad at mine? I do regard people with a degree highly - I mean, it is a great achievement and I think highly of them for it. Having a degree is a good personal achievement. But so is having a stable career and being able to support yourself and be independent. And getting a degree later in life can stink, as I work just 2 or 3 days per week and earn just on minimum wage and I wont be able to rent a place on my own for a good while, until I graduate and can work full time... Unless you work full time and study full time as an adult, it is going to be hard to live independently whilst getting a degree as an adult - most of us just want to be done with the degree and study full time without the burden of full time work... It is always better to get a degree out of the way earlier in life. For sure. I don't let the degree/not degree argument deter me from dating men without a degree.
MissBee Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 What makes you avoid replying the message? Assume the message does not contain any sex content. I tend to read people's profiles before I check their message. If I check the profile and am not interested based on what they say and if I'm not attracted to them (but primarily it's what their profile says) and can already tell we'd not be a good match I simply don't bother to reply to the message. Or if it some mundane thing like "Hi." As 9/10 times it never gets more interesting after hi and usually the hi folks have profiles I don't like either. So that's why I avoid replying. If I feel like we won't be a match I don't waste my or their time.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 women on OKC want men to know they have their MBA and PHD LOL Yeah I do that too. I'm proud of my academic achievments - I'm not going to pretend that I'm not just to a attract a man.
MissBee Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I have a degree, but I've never dated someone with a degree. I've also never been pursued by someone with a degree. I don't mind it, but I did take offense to the times when they might lash out at me in anger or put me down for being proud of myself academically. I don't care about a man's education, why is he mad at mine? Insecurity.
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Eh men in general don't care about the degree or even jobs. They care about looks, youth and having outgoing personality. Some even have a preference for women that are less educated than them. Half of the academics I know are married to women without a degree. True, I'd likely even date an attractive 40 something career waitress, even though her entire shift of co-workers are college-aged.
Thegreatestthing Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I have a degree and on my second one now,I have no prerequisite for a degree. academic language is so unemotional and so heartbreakingly clinical that I only go through with it because there's no other avenue for me. You can read Robert fisks article "let us rebel against poisonous academics" for more on this. University is mostly about following rules,obeying structure and order and I'm generally not attracted to people that are like that. Degrees and credentials are primarily badges of compliance. Those with extended schooling have lived for many years in a world where one routinely conforms to the demands of authorities. I really like original thinkers who don't follow rules,autodidacts etc,I would never rule out anyone based On Education esp if they were American,as education is hugely expensive over there,out of reach for many.
40 Fonzarelli Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 99% of the time, it's all about the looks. You can be a good looking guy and send "hi" and she will most likely respond. If you aren't good looking then you probably need to be more creative. Then you MIGHT get a response. So it's a numbers game. Now it makes sense why guys will copy and paste the same message to everyone. It's just too time consuming to craft a unique special message with very low return on investment.
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