Armegoggon Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 What makes you avoid replying the message? Assume the message does not contain any sex content.
Phoe Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Sexual messages are the only ones I wouldn't reply to. Polite ones got a response every time.
LisaSmith_1970 Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Well, if I don't find the guy attractive, I won't respond at all, even if it's a friendly message. I'm not going to waste a guys time by talking to him if I don't have no desire to meet him. 2
mammasita Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Unattractive pictures (subjective of course, unattractive IMO only) or a pretentious "about me" when I look at the profile. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Sexual messages are the only ones I wouldn't reply to. Polite ones got a response every time. Again, from my (limited) experience, you are easily 1 in 15 if not 1 in 30 or more women. You do realize all of this, don't you? Even though I keep telling you. Most women offer no response. You can tell if they read the message too. I think it's kind of nice. I literally spend hours sifting through profiles, handpick yours, open two windows so that I can carefully craft a message catering where my interests meet yours while trying not to be too forward or too passive and ... no response. But, ya know it is what it is.
Phoe Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Again, from my (limited) experience, you are easily 1 in 15 if not 1 in 30 or more women. You do realize all of this, don't you? Even though I keep telling you. Most women offer no response. You can tell if they read the message too. I think it's kind of nice. I literally spend hours sifting through profiles, handpick yours, open two windows so that I can carefully craft a message catering where my interests meet yours while trying not to be too forward or too passive and ... no response. But, ya know it is what it is. Well hey! 1/30 isn't that bad of odds at all when you consider how many women there are out there...
KatZee Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I only respond to people I find physically attractive. There is no need to respond to anyone else, regardless of their message. I'm not on a dating site to make friends, date someone I don't find attractive, start up e-mail/text buddies, or have pointless conversation and lead someone on when I know it's not going to go any further than that first message. 1
smg15 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 What makes you avoid replying the message? Assume the message does not contain any sex content. 1. No physically attraction 2. Pic doesn't give off a pleasant vibe 3. No Essay 4. Older than me
Thegreatestthing Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 He's not physically my type. He's really logical or into science. He's an atheist.
smg15 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 Again, from my (limited) experience, you are easily 1 in 15 if not 1 in 30 or more women. You do realize all of this, don't you? Even though I keep telling you. Most women offer no response. You can tell if they read the message too. I think it's kind of nice. I literally spend hours sifting through profiles, handpick yours, open two windows so that I can carefully craft a message catering where my interests meet yours while trying not to be too forward or too passive and ... no response. But, ya know it is what it is. I can't do the browsing thing anymore because it's boring. I wait for girls to contact me but putting my profile online
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 - Message "hi" or "what's up" or similar - Over 10 years younger or older - Shorter than me - No college degree (exception made if his profile is really well written) - Unemployed - Text speak in a profile or message - Unattractive to me (If the guy is meh, I will give it a go if he meets the above criteria) 2
CarrieT Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 - Message "hi" or "what's up" or similar - Over 10 years younger or older - Shorter than me - No college degree (exception made if his profile is really well written) - Unemployed - Text speak in a profile or message - Unattractive to me (If the guy is meh, I will give it a go if he meets the above criteria) These were the ones I was going to say - except the ten-year age difference. I would date 10 and 20 years older than me and up to 10 years younger. But the college degree was a MUST, no exceptions. I really, really hated the "hi, what's up?" messages. 1
smg15 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 These were the ones I was going to say - except the ten-year age difference. I would date 10 and 20 years older than me and up to 10 years younger. But the college degree was a MUST, no exceptions. I really, really hated the "hi, what's up?" messages. I think the hi what's up message is to see if you like what you see before continuing I don't think no guy wants to send a long message before finding out if you are attracted
cessna Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 These were the ones I was going to say - except the ten-year age difference. I would date 10 and 20 years older than me and up to 10 years younger. But the college degree was a MUST, no exceptions. I really, really hated the "hi, what's up?" messages. Just curious as to why a degree was a must? I don't have anything close to a degree, I did an apprenticeship and work as an aircraft engineer as well as holding a pilot licence. Does that make me a lesser person? I would say I'm a smart guy, just because I'm not an academic doesn't make me any less intelligent or mean I have any less ambition.
smg15 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Just curious as to why a degree was a must? I don't have anything close to a degree, I did an apprenticeship and work as an aircraft engineer as well as holding a pilot licence. Does that make me a lesser person? I would say I'm a smart guy, just because I'm not an academic doesn't make me any less intelligent or mean I have any less ambition. Degree means it's a higher chance you have a good job
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Degree means a higher chance of compatibility with me. I have spent 10 years in academia and place high value on education. Nobody said people without a degree are lesser of a person, just for me personally they are less likely to be compatible. I have spent enough time with people that feel the need to put down education to last me a lifetime.
smg15 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I put too much emphasis on education just as she is working. But for some reason feel the need to highlight they have a masters degree
cessna Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Stinks of elitism to me somewhat. I have a good job and my aim is to have a very well respected job in the near future.
Leigh 87 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 (edited) Degree means a higher chance of compatibility with me. I have spent 10 years in academia and place high value on education. Nobody said people without a degree are lesser of a person, just for me personally they are less likely to be compatible. I have spent enough time with people that feel the need to put down education to last me a lifetime. Except people like me have no degree and yet I get along well with male academics - I enjoy asking them all about their papers and research. Plus I have done a year of college and managed to do well. Never had a man reject me due to my lack of college degree. Some people enjoy learning and are genuinely interested in your work and in your academic life. They don't all happen to have degrees... Edited December 2, 2014 by Leigh 87
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Except people like me have no degree and yet I get along well with male academics - I enjoy asking them all about their papers and research. Plus I have done a year of college and managed to do well. Never had a man reject me due to my lack of college degree. Some people enjoy learning and are genuinely interested in your work and in your academic life. They don't all happen to have degrees... Eh men in general don't care about the degree or even jobs. They care about looks, youth and having outgoing personality. Some even have a preference for women that are less educated than them. Half of the academics I know are married to women without a degree.
smg15 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Eh men in general don't care about the degree or even jobs. They care about looks, youth and having outgoing personality. Some even have a preference for women that are less educated than them. Half of the academics I know are married to women without a degree. women on OKC want men to know they have their MBA and PHD LOL
Leigh 87 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Eh men in general don't care about the degree or even jobs. They care about looks, youth and having outgoing personality. Some even have a preference for women that are less educated than them. Half of the academics I know are married to women without a degree. Well that is interesting. Funny, some of the men I have dated have asked me my opinion on their work based strategies. Turns out us folks without degrees are just as clever? Friends of mine as well as family who have degrees do not speak on a level that is superior to me or exceeds my level of understanding. I am intellectually superior OR equal to some people that I have met that have degrees - they barley scraped by college where as I passed with flying colours whilst I was there? So you would rather a man who has a degree but isn't a curious or innovative in his ideas and barley passed, over a man WITHOUT a degree but who is more clever?? How about people like me who did well in school and then again during our time in college that we have not yet finished? A degree doesn't really mean that much when it comes to dating? Plenty of men I have met are self made and have no degrees -they still like to read books and stuff... Not sure why you feel that people without degrees are not your match - I mean, I have friends with degrees - why are people like me "different" simply because we do not have a degree? I have to help some of my friends with their degrees because they are not able to organise their thoughts and ideas when it comes to research papers.
smg15 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 Well that is interesting. Funny, some of the men I have dated have asked me my opinion on their work based strategies. Turns out us folks without degrees are just as clever? Friends of mine as well as family who have degrees do not speak on a level that is superior to me or exceeds my level of understanding. I am intellectually superior OR equal to some people that I have met that have degrees - they barley scraped by college where as I passed with flying colours whilst I was there? So you would rather a man who has a degree but isn't a curious or innovative in his ideas and barley passed, over a man WITHOUT a degree but who is more clever?? How about people like me who did well in school and then again during our time in college that we have not yet finished? A degree doesn't really mean that much when it comes to dating? Plenty of men I have met are self made and have no degrees -they still like to read books and stuff... Not sure why you feel that people without degrees are not your match - I mean, I have friends with degrees - why are people like me "different" simply because we do not have a degree? I have to help some of my friends with their degrees because they are not able to organise their thoughts and ideas when it comes to research papers. I think I have 6 friends without degrees
Phoe Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I have a degree, but I've never dated someone with a degree. I've also never been pursued by someone with a degree. I don't mind it, but I did take offense to the times when they might lash out at me in anger or put me down for being proud of myself academically. I don't care about a man's education, why is he mad at mine?
Leigh 87 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I will just conclude by saying: plenty of people who are very average in terms of their level of intellect and who even nearly failed high school, have degrees. Then people like me who did well in school, have not done a degree. I have held jobs for 3/4 years so degrees don't really highlight that people have determination and drive anymore than a person who has held a full time job for a few years (how long a degree takes). Not sure why some people think a degree makes a partner more compatible unless THEY themselves are an academic, and wish to find a partner who is also an academic - Unless you need a partner who has some valuable answers as to how scientific methods work or who can understand what all of your work means, why would you need a partner with a degree? Genuine curious why people stipulate degrees - I am way smarter than many people I know whom have gone on to achieve a degree....
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