NopeNah Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Not sure how long it's been since her or I have spoken. Yesterday I get a text from her son. No biggie. Then old booze brain of mine decided to send her a text last night. Nothing sappy or anything. Just a 'I'm proud of him,hope you are well.. give me a call sometime.. or don't. Stupid! Stupid!Stupid! Needless to say, there's no response. Ahhh the agony of loneliness and the crazy things I do. 1
Chin Up Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 I hear ya. I did the same thing a few nights ago. Sent a very thoughtful and heartfelt text to my ex. Nothing sappy or over the top, but very sweet and considerate. Basically told him that if I had ever said or done anything to make him feel he was a bad or inadequate boyfriend, it wasn't my intention and I felt guilty thinking that was the case. I apologized and hoped he was doing well.... *punching my own forehead* Funny thing is, he WAS a bad boyfriend LMAO. I feel like such a twit. It's embarrassing when they don't answer, but be glad she didn't. There's nothing they can say at this point that would make you feel better other than "I'm a complete fool and made a huge mistake. Can we talk about getting back together?" I'm at a point though where if (a mighty big and doubtful if) mine did say that, I'd probably tell him to eff off with liberal usage of exclamation points. 1
Lostgirl50 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I broke no contact rule too. Did awesome all week till Saturday nite. Learned that booze and text should noon go together. Ha ! Back to freely crappy on Sunday nite. Booze will have to stay in house and phone in the car to end that relationship ! Ha! Fresh new day tommorow to strt no contact rule. Good luck to everyone . We can do this !
Author NopeNah Posted December 1, 2014 Author Posted December 1, 2014 And....I got a response. Just some generic 'I don't hate you,blah,blah, hope you're doing well, take care'... Yeah... not going to reply.
Chin Up Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 (edited) "I don't hate you" ..Well that's a relief! Yeah, what can you really say back to that? I'm starting to see humor in some of the things dumpers say. Early on I told my ex I missed him. He replied..oh man lolol he said.. "Same. Talk to you some time. I hope the best for you. Take care. Nite" .....wtf??? :lmao:. Mixed messages much? Cliche post break up lines.. "Take care" and "hope you're doing well" I've tossed those out a few times myself. Feeling pretty unoriginal right now Edited December 1, 2014 by Chin Up
Author NopeNah Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 I was the dumper...although it was more or less "forced on me' to do so. Just a little setback. I've pretty much figured out that I miss the companionship,not the companion. Do I miss part of her? Yes,of course. I also know and remember the bad,if not, VERY bad her. OH well.
IfiKnewThen Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 i was the dumper too. i understand what youre going thru. and u put it well..saying i missed the companionship. not the companion. but still i felt there was something about him..
Author NopeNah Posted December 5, 2014 Author Posted December 5, 2014 Guess this is now done and finished. Dropped her belongings by her place when I knew she wouldnt be around. I did send a short text before to let her know, and then afterwards,to inform her of the location of the items. Horrible nights sleep,but no work today at least. Guess it's on to the next chapter. Bittersweet ending to a relationship that had clearly ran its course.
OneConfuzedGuy Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 That seems like a big step. How long were you together? How are you feeling now? It must of been tough dropping off the last of the items. It is like that final step going forward. I know it was tough for me. Im still trying to get over this **** it is tough. Hang in there we all going through the same thing.
me85 Posted December 6, 2014 Posted December 6, 2014 Good for you. It needed to be done. I finally deleted all the pictures I had of my ex on my computer and on my phone almost 3 weeks ago. Took me 16 months post BU to be able to do that. I really want to box up the sentimental things, along with everything else he gave me and have a friend drop it off to him. Maybe I'll reach that stage in the future but instead of giving it all back, just give it all to goodwill or as gifts for Christmas one year. lol
Author NopeNah Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 We were together for almost 11 years,with a few breaks here and there. After time we both held onto some resentment and could no longer go a week or so without arguing. That's no way to go through life. Our kids grew up together and are now heading off to college/moving out. I believe she is also planning on moving out of state soon. Hell... I've been considering a move myself, so this could be my chance too.. Just kinda bummed. I don't regret meeting/knowing her. I don't hate her. I just know that it's now over.
Author NopeNah Posted December 6, 2014 Author Posted December 6, 2014 Was nice to finally get a good nights sleep! I know its still going to be a 'ride'. When she meets someone new,crossing paths,ect.. I had quite the week of debauchery leading up and including the night after dropping her things. I've been 'numbing' myself with...what do you got? No more of that from here forward. Time to accept it for what it is. Get my affairs back in order and on with life without her. I do and am still 'in love' with her and at the same time I know that this is the only option we both have towards happiness..to be apart.
Author NopeNah Posted December 7, 2014 Author Posted December 7, 2014 Damn! The crossing paths...JUST HAPPENED! I took an employee to lunch,for working on the weekend. I dont go to this place,big city,ect...Waiting for our check and bamb! There she is! I didnt look her way,she 100% saw me. I walked out without a word. Strangers is what we are now..So weird,though. Damn universe! I'm still going out and doing my thing as planned....moving on.
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