LookAtThisPOst Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 I was wondering. I hear situations where single people, who had no such interest or hobby in certain things at first, met someone that was into something that introduced them to that hobby? And turns out they liked it. I have a male co-worker that had a girlfriend that didn't care for Star Wars, but when she got a boyfriend, he turned her onto it. Sometimes a situation or compatibility issue can come about if the person wasn't at least willing to try. I recall going out with a woman who most of her time off is spent at hanging out at bar routinely watching live bands. I figured I'd open her up to new opportunities by asking her if she was into kayaking, tubing, or even the beach. She doesn't like any of it and also wouldn't be willing to even try it. And these are rather common things. But some just "don't do" the great outdoors, even for a day. Though I have known motor cycle enthusiasts that insist the person they date also be a motorcycle enthusiast, while other couples are content on being into their own things. Have you been compatible with partners that had no interest in what you do? How important is it to you that your future partner be into what you are into? Be it sports, motorcycle riding, etc? Even though you never had an interest in a hobby, would you take up the new hobby with the person you dated?
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Sure. That's one of the beauties of being in a relationship. My ex introduced me to dancing, certain movies, and certain foods. It takes you outside of your comfort zone. You get introduced to new friends and see new places. It is important to date somebody you share interests with. However, I do think most people are willing to do a variety of things. When I look at online profiles, I have an interest in doing things most others do. This is what dating is supposed to be. A fun exercise where you share doing fun things and enjoy life with somebody. The physical attraction and emotional mumbo jumbo I feel totally get in the way.
sillyanswer Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Have you been compatible with partners that had no interest in what you do? How important is it to you that your future partner be into what you are into? Be it sports, motorcycle riding, etc? Even though you never had an interest in a hobby, would you take up the new hobby with the person you dated? I don't think any of this is necessarily exclusive to romantic/dating relationships... it can apply just as well to platonic friendships, too. Anyway, those questions... Yes, I've been compatible with partners who had no interest in my hobbies (beyond a general interest in wanting me to be happy/successful with them). It's important to me that my future partner is at least accepting of some of my hobbies, even better if she's supportive of some of them, even better if she'd like to try them, even better if she actually likes them (already or as a result of my introduction). I don't think I've ever taken up a new long-lasting hobby as a result of being introduced to it by someone I've dated, but I've tried some that I've enjoyed but typically stopped them when or soon after stopping dating the person (because I didn't enjoy them as much as the other hobbies I already have that I'd prefer to spend my time one). I'm open to the idea of trying out a new hypothetical hobby that a new partner wants to introduce me to... but I suppose in the end it depends what it is.
Mirages Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 I feel the whole rowboat, canoe, kayak, type of thing is very appealing. I have never done that, but will likely add it to the list for dating. I am open to certain rec activities, and closed to others. Don't get me golfin, zero interest
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