Stay Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Ok so usually I enjoy getting texts and girls initiating, I do initiate also and it'll all be good. I try not to text all the time or everyday as I usually don't like to create a texting buddy and rather using that for meeting up and save the texts for face to face conversations. Anyways most of the time I get girls who are really into conversing in the beginning and it usually tapers off and dies down over time. Being the person I am I usually only text if I have a purpose or something to share, never the boring "Hey" that gets no where. From past experiences, when I'm too invested, it dies down, when I'm not invested it also dies down. Maybe I'm not taking enough initiative and being persistent. This particular girl I really enjoy spending time with is hot or cold, sometimes her text conversations are good and sometimes they're really cold and she doesn't continue the conversations. However when we do meet in person she's very talkative and conversations almost never stops in person. At this point I feel like she's not as interested in me as before since in the beginning she would text me sometimes randomly about nothing. Now it has kinda tapered off, I don't have much to text her since again I don't want to make this into a casual relationship texting buddy thing. I'm also super busy and only have a few days out of the week so I can't be too flexible with my schedule and hanging out. We hung once or twice per week for about 2 months now, sometimes with others and sometimes by ourselves. With our texting slowing down like this we still occasionally send each other things but not much on conversing through text. This is also kinda intimidating me on asking her out more since I feel like it's slowly distancing things. Am I just being scared and not taking initiative like I should be? The past girls I would have conversations that were great and always seem positive then they'll flake and drop me out of the blue. So great conversations wouldn't necessarily mean I'm doing good either so I think conversations dying a bit doesn't necessarily mean I'm doing bad.
JChristie Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 maybe she just needs to know some of the stuff you mentioned in your post, to her. maybe she needs to know that you enjoy her company other than as a friend. these days when people swap spit and other fluids too quickly, we can get confused as to where we stand. also, some girls and guys expect things to move quickly if someone likes them. you sound pretty mature. your words make sense. so be honest and tell her what you put in your post. maybe she will be clear with you and let you know where you stand. best of luck.
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