notsointerested Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 (edited) My friend at university held a massive party for his 21st birthday and booked us all a place to stay at some hotel. He invited a bunch of people including a girl who went to a different university to me but we knew each other from friends who are studying the same course as me. We talked often but generally the discussions were mainly about work, interests and I joked around with her about things (not sexual), but we didn't see each other in person yet. She was pretty friendly with me and from past mistakes I did not read this as a sign that she was into me. I knew her for a few months and when I found out she was going to this party I was really excited. At the party, she was always attached with her friends and my one wingman was not enough to hold off the other girl. But I did get an opportunity to talk to her and we had a hug when we first met. The conversation was short lived because we were going to eat dinner but nevertheless we knew more about each other. Later that night I bumped into her in the corridor and she seemed very upset because her dress was torn from some drunk guy stepping on it. She wanted me to help her find her room so she could get changed. When we got to the room, thinking about what happened I just said "I'll catch you later then". Should I have made a move there and then? I think I screwed up big time because she is that kind of girl that everyone wants to bang but doesn't get the chance to. I don't know why I chickened out, maybe because she was upset about the dress and was only asking me for help? Question is... Did I really just pass the golden opportunity to have a one night stand? Should I have made my move and offered to go inside? In my defense I didn't think she was interested because of the dress and things I might have given the impression that I was desperate Edited November 30, 2014 by notsointerested
d0nnivain Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 You were a gentleman. That is a good thing. If she wanted something from that encounter, she could easily have asked you in. She didn't so had you tried to push yourself on her after she was already upset would have made you a jerk. Don't feel bad about not being a jerk. Follow up with her. Call to see if she got the dress fixed. Then ask her on a date.
Author notsointerested Posted November 30, 2014 Author Posted November 30, 2014 You were a gentleman. That is a good thing. If she wanted something from that encounter, she could easily have asked you in. She didn't so had you tried to push yourself on her after she was already upset would have made you a jerk. Don't feel bad about not being a jerk. Follow up with her. Call to see if she got the dress fixed. Then ask her on a date. That makes me feel much better. My friends were telling me I was stupid for letting the opportunity pass. I was kicking myself for being too nice. But I guess it was a blessing in disguise...
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