Xiang Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 (edited) Make it brief. Ex contacts me (she has a boyfriend, an older Ex than me XD). We talk and have fun and laugh like we did in the old days, all good. In fact i am kinda one of the few ppl she has so much fun with. She brings up a stupid remark "if only you were more badass/*******, things would of been different". Kinda the reason we broke up first time, she told me i wasn't "badass" enough. Lack of a better english word. She wanted me to be more agressive/assertive idk. Not to mention asking if i still loved her, but that's something most gals ask. And she asked for my phone number again so she can call. So, why the remark? What's happening here. Is she just testing waters because stuff might be bad with her BF? PS: Yes ik...many topics, what can i do. My life is so full of drama. I should stop having so many female friends. Edited November 29, 2014 by Xiang
lindsay91313 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 She's most definitely just sprinkling the breadcrumbs out there..coming from the female perspective, it's somethig I would do with my ex when my husband and I were on the outs. She's reaching out to her version of the "next best thing" because she's probably dealing with issues in her current relationship. Again, I would do the same with my ex. "We could have been great if you never did this, that, blah blah blah". Just a space filler when I felt my needs weren't being met by my husband. It's wrong, but you're not necessarily thinking clearly when you're feeling emotionally distraught. More power to you if you think you can keep a friendly relationship with your ex, but is suggest treading very lightly. 2
M30USA Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 Tell her to marry Marilyn Manson. Hopefully he's "badass" enough for her.
Author Xiang Posted December 1, 2014 Author Posted December 1, 2014 She's most definitely just sprinkling the breadcrumbs out there..coming from the female perspective, it's somethig I would do with my ex when my husband and I were on the outs. She's reaching out to her version of the "next best thing" because she's probably dealing with issues in her current relationship. Again, I would do the same with my ex. "We could have been great if you never did this, that, blah blah blah". Just a space filler when I felt my needs weren't being met by my husband. It's wrong, but you're not necessarily thinking clearly when you're feeling emotionally distraught. More power to you if you think you can keep a friendly relationship with your ex, but is suggest treading very lightly. I guess it was exactly that :\. Something was probably off with her guy. 3 days later they break-up. I expect to hear from her anytime soon honestly. Tips? ^^.
lindsay91313 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 I guess it was exactly that :\. Something was probably off with her guy. 3 days later they break-up. I expect to hear from her anytime soon honestly. Tips? ^^. Not surprising. If she does contact you and you feel like you are emotionally abailable enough, just keep it short and simple. I honestly wouldn't even reply if she tried contacting you, because now you have solid evidence that she's just testing the waters and wants to feel wanted. Nobody wants to feel unwanted, but she made her bed. You are moving on and she is going to have to accept that and start her own process, don't feel responsible.
LifeGoesOnMan Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 lol what a b1tch. guessing you guys are teens?
Author Xiang Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 lol what a b1tch. guessing you guys are teens? Neither of us are ^^. But i guess the behaviour would be similar.
me85 Posted December 2, 2014 Posted December 2, 2014 It's not that you should have "so many female friends" it's that you should be "friends" with your ex.
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