nofeelings22 Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 Another realization.... It takes a long time to find a new serious relationship after divorce because you actually know what you're looking for!!! You know what you want, you know what you don't want! When I got married (12 years ago), I had no clue what I wanted. I took a top 99.99 percentile super hot girl with actual, diagnosed mental illness, figuring we could work on it together and come out of it ok. The mental illness won. So looking back, if I had known to watch out for mental illness, i would have chosen differently. I also know there were several positive aspects about her that I look for again. But, different from before, I'm not blinded by looks, cuteness, etc... I can see past these things and am selecting based on personality and would take a reasonable hit in the looks department for the right personality. So... it is actually much more difficult than the first time around. I've had several girls want to start something with me. Yet... I rejected them all (very attractive ones too) based on personality defects I found. Came very close with one, but she got into drugs and they have destroyed a once beautiful person(inside). She even called my yesterday asking for $500,but I said no and she got pissed. (no freeloaders allowed) How I wish she would come around and be herself, but i doubt it'll happen, so onto the reject pile. :/ In my earlier years, I would have fought for her and got her off drugs. Now, I'm looking for one that isn't broken, which takes a pretty long time these days!
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