Zahara Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Surprise, surprise - this happened today! His ex left him again (not even a month in) and he felt the need to update me on the situation. I haven't seen him or talked to him since the BU practically.. it caught me a bit by surprise, and I did reply to him.. but all I said was .."well, that's unfortunate.." I think his ex will be back and he'll bounce back and forth. When he was with you, he was engaging the ex. When he was with the ex, he was engaging you. He is a weak and insecure person. I'm sure he is going to try and rope you back in. Please do not go back. The dysfunction with his ex is still there and likely he will revert or she will repeat her pattern of pulling him back in. Stay away from him. There is no possible way that he will be a healthy and available partner for you. ..I felt a bit like a winner in the situation, but at the same time I also felt a bit bad because of the idea of what we could have been if all of this didn't happen. Actually, this was a blessing. Imagine if you invested more time with him and he decided to go back. You win. 1
Chi townD Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Surprise, surprise - this happened today! His ex left him again (not even a month in) and he felt the need to update me on the situation. I haven't seen him or talked to him since the BU practically.. it caught me a bit by surprise, and I did reply to him.. but all I said was .."well, that's unfortunate.." ..I felt a bit like a winner in the situation, but at the same time I also felt a bit bad because of the idea of what we could have been if all of this didn't happen. LMAO!!! I guess he learned a available lesson. There's a reason why our Ex's are our Ex's. Too bad. HIS LOSS!!! 2
Ieris Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 I'm surprised this guy is even showing his face again, must have such thick skin, I feel embarrassed for him. Take a proper look at him now Lauren, you can do SO MUCH better! x 2
stillafool Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Surprise, surprise - this happened today! His ex left him again (not even a month in) and he felt the need to update me on the situation. I haven't seen him or talked to him since the BU practically.. it caught me a bit by surprise, and I did reply to him.. but all I said was .."well, that's unfortunate.." ..I felt a bit like a winner in the situation, but at the same time I also felt a bit bad because of the idea of what we could have been if all of this didn't happen. Well at least you know now where his loyalty is - with his ex. I wouldn't talk to him if I were you. He broke up with you for her and why should you listen to his problems of his recent breakup with her. Block, rinse and move on. Don't talk to him.
stillafool Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 I was doing so well the past two days; started to allow myself to feel anger etc. and it's like he has a radar that sensed I'm moving on because he just texted me asking if we could meet him today or tomorrow... after I specifically asked him to leave me alone. All these feelings came back ... I haven't replied yet ..not sure if I will. I know I should just block him, but part of me wants proper closure. There is no such thing. Any conversation with him will bring about more questions in your mind. There is no closure he left you to go back to his ex, now she is gone and he wants to sleep with you again. Are you going to let him?
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Block him and don't look back. I promise the right guy will never do that to you. And you deserve that! 1
ZiggyZoo Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 I was doing so well the past two days; started to allow myself to feel anger etc. and it's like he has a radar that sensed I'm moving on because he just texted me asking if we could meet him today or tomorrow... after I specifically asked him to leave me alone. All these feelings came back ... I haven't replied yet ..not sure if I will. I know I should just block him, but part of me wants proper closure. I completely agree with stillafool, you aren't going to get closure. One, he obviously doesn't even know what "closure" means, since he can't seem to end one relationship before starting another. And two, he doesn't want to end it with you. So why would he help you move on? Best to realize that you are the only one who can give you any sort of closure in any breakup. You need to tell yourself that it doesn't matter why they treated you the way that they did. All that matters is that you were treated poorly and you don't deserve it. You don't need any validation from them that what they did was wrong. Which is good, because you aren't going to get it. Trust in yourself, that you are making the right decision to block him from your life and then do it.
Author lauren13 Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 Who could have ever seen that coming? He's probably going to try to bounce back to you, but be strong. It won't be because he's had any personal revelations or made changes to himself, it will be because he doesn't want to be alone. If he tries again in a year from now, maybe entertain the possibility. For now, ignore, because you're better than being treated like a safety net. These are my thoughts exactly! Thank you all for your replies! Appreciated! I thought of sharing this as a few here on here (along with all of his friends) suggested she will leave in no time.. just another reminder that an ex is an ex for a reason (something I will keep in mind as well). And no, I don't intend to get back together with him. 2
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