derbylove Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 I've been married to my husband for 7 years. We have two kids together and through the 7 years he has expressed to me a total of 7 times going on 8 that he doesn't know if he actually loves me or if he is just telling himself it's the right thing to do. The 6th time he told me I decided I was going to go back to my home state. He is Army and I have followed him around the last 7 years. So I wanted to be by family that will support me. I took both of our kids with me. He knew I was doing this. Now, after he filed for divorce against me, took me to court claiming I have psychotic episodes, substance abuse, child neglect, eating disorders and much more which none are true or documented in medical records, he wants to reconcile. I had already gotten an order for protection against him because he was making threats. Now he has been very convincing but I express an interest in a 2 year course for law he decided again he doesn't want me. NOW he tells me he wants me but that he can't be with me because I don't make him happy. I just need to know I'm doing right by my kids and myself by making the choice to file since he can't follow through with anything.
GirlStillStrong Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 Do you go back? No! Why would you want to return yourself and your kids to that? Because you're "supposed to?" He's nuts. Not to mention selfish and controlling. When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE them.
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 Normally I'm an advocate of trying to save a marriage but this guy sounds a bit unhinged. If you do want to try again, do not dive right in. Avail yourself of the family services & counseling available to active duty military & take your time to make sure that reconciliation is the best thing. If he won't agree to this, talk to a lawyer & don't look back.
Mr. Lucky Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 he has expressed to me a total of 7 times going on 8 that he doesn't know if he actually loves me or if he is just telling himself it's the right thing to do. If I told you someone knocked on my door 7 days in a row and each time I opened the door they punched me in the nose, what would you advise me to do on the 8th day ??? Do the right thing for you and your kids, that should be your focus. Your H is not a suitable marriage partner... Mr. Lucky
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