Lernaean_Hydra Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Right! And him calling me babe & baby this doesn't make sit well with me either. I just want to know how can I nicely break it off with him? I've dealt with guys like this before and honestly, there might not be a "nice" way to do this. Naturally at first you can simply tell him his clinginess was a bit much for you and you feel you're not a good fit. Frankly, your best bet is to tell it to him straight and make it clear you're ending things and hope he understands. However, 9/10 that results in him simply pormising to do/be better or less clingy, telling you how he just likes you so much he got beside himself and it was totally out of character, etc. The downside is if he seems genuinely unaware of his behavior and sincere in his desire to amend his behavior it can be easy to fall for it and consider giving him a second chance. Don't. It won't get better. But, often, being nice about it gets you nowhere. I was seeing this guy pretty sporadically for months but he continuously blew up my phone, called four or five times in a row if I didn't answer, never wanted me to leave after a date (or vice versa), etc. After many "talks" about his behavior and promises on his end I finally got fed up and told him it was over. He eventually had to be forcibly removed from my home after I told him in no uncertain terms nope, we're done as his clingyness was driving me insane. Somehow we ended up "debating" my feelings for two hours :rolleyes:nonetheless. Things got so tense at one point I slipped my phone in my pocket and dialed my best friend so she could hear what was going on and get help if necessary. And he STILL blew up my phone with calls and texts a few weeks later. Finally I had to take some pretty low blows to finally get him to leave me alone and fully understand it was not going to happen. So, like I said, doing it 'nicely' might not always be effective. 1
fred123 Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 I've dealt with guys like this before and honestly, there might not be a "nice" way to do this. Naturally at first you can simply tell him his clinginess was a bit much for you and you feel you're not a good fit. Frankly, your best bet is to tell it to him straight and make it clear you're ending things and hope he understands. However, 9/10 that results in him simply pormising to do/be better or less clingy, telling you how he just likes you so much he got beside himself and it was totally out of character, etc. The downside is if he seems genuinely unaware of his behavior and sincere in his desire to amend his behavior it can be easy to fall for it and consider giving him a second chance. Don't. It won't get better. But, often, being nice about it gets you nowhere. I was seeing this guy pretty sporadically for months but he continuously blew up my phone, called four or five times in a row if I didn't answer, never wanted me to leave after a date (or vice versa), etc. After many "talks" about his behavior and promises on his end I finally got fed up and told him it was over. He eventually had to be forcibly removed from my home after I told him in no uncertain terms nope, we're done as his clingyness was driving me insane. Somehow we ended up "debating" my feelings for two hours :rolleyes:nonetheless. Things got so tense at one point I slipped my phone in my pocket and dialed my best friend so she could hear what was going on and get help if necessary. And he STILL blew up my phone with calls and texts a few weeks later. Finally I had to take some pretty low blows to finally get him to leave me alone and fully understand it was not going to happen. So, like I said, doing it 'nicely' might not always be effective. explain your low blows?
Frank2thepoint Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I just want to know how can I nicely break it off with him? How about "Sorry, we're not compatible. Good luck with your endeavors." After that, if he still contacts you, just don't answer his calls/texts, and ignore him. Real simple. 1
elaine567 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I agree with Frank2the point. This is hardly a LTR that you need to somehow justify breaking up. There is no need to go into any detail as to why, no need for a post mortem. Make it short and sweet, and to the point, babe.
Redhead14 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 Well I met this guy about 3 weeks ago, on a dating site. He came to see me a week after we met and I can say that we had a good time. Towards the end of the night tho I was ready to just go home because he kept wanting to kiss & I wasn't feeling it. He told me he hasn't had sex in a year in a half since his last relationship ended with his kids mother. He's a pretty stable guy, drives a nice car owns his home and works a good job. He's always talking about his money and how much he has which can get kind of annoying sometimes. Also hes showing clingy signs like mostly every time he text me he text me at least 3-4 text at once, granted their not long text, but still. Another time he told me that I never call him when I had just called him the day before & we talked for a half hour. He also will text me again if I don't answer him within like 5min. How should I deal with him moving forward if at all. Sometimes I like him, but then other times his behavior turns me off . If you like this man and want to move forward with him, you must let him know what your needs and wants are. You do this by telling him that you like him and enjoy hearing from him and that texting is not your preferred method of communication. You don't mind one here and there but you are sometimes busy and can't maintain a lengthy conversation via text or multiple texts. You can explain to him that there needs to be balance in your communications.
elaine567 Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 I just want to know how can I nicely break it off with him? ^^^^ Redhead14 the thread has moved on a bit.
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