what does this text mean?

[lil_missy]

so i just ended things with a guy i was seeing casually because he did not want to take things to the next level. i expressed some sentiment that he was just using me for sex and his reply was

 

" you didnt want anything to do with me the first time we met so don't patronise me it was never just sex"

 

I'm just wondering does he mean it was just sex or it wasn't? its just really confusing the way he worded it.

 

thanks

[stillafool]

so i just ended things with a guy i was seeing casually because he did not want to take things to the next level. i expressed some sentiment that he was just using me for sex and his reply was

 

" you didnt want anything to do with me the first time we met so don't patronise me it was never just sex"

 

I'm just wondering does he mean it was just sex or it wasn't? its just really confusing the way he worded it.

 

thanks

 

Reread what you wrote. He said it was never just sex.

[martaldn]

No it wasn't just sex for him.

Apparently u weren't intersted in him and sounds pissed off u are now accusing him to use u for sex.

[Chemist]

I spent 6 months with my last girlfriend where she refused my want for a relationship. She told me that she wasn't seeing anyone else, but that she didn't want to have a serious commitment with me.

 

I brought it up a few times and she kept dismissing it. One time she got mad at me and yelled at me. That night, I shut her out of my heart. It took a long time before I could open up again. It is a miserable thing for a guy and we are not all just horny dudes who want to bone.

 

It seems like he liked you and you were not for it. Maybe he also shut you out to keep himself from getting his heart broken.

[bathtub-row]

I think he means that it wasn't just sex. However, you might want to consider not having sex with guys until there's mutual interest, when this potential for it just bring about sex is removed. I know it's really popular to dive into bed with someone very quickly but it's a bad idea.

 

Btw, what did he mean that you didn't want to have anything to do with him, and what caused you to think he didn't want to take the relationship to the next level? We're you guys together for awhile?

[lil_missy]

thanks guys

 

i didnt reject him or anything it wasn't like that

 

the back story is we've been on and off for a year. i wasn't into him in the beginning at all, but somehow we slept together and he was really sweet to me for a short while. he told me we were seeing each other, but then was cold to me. we only slept together, he never took me out or anything. i was hurt but i never told him coz i wanted to play it kool, i told him i wanted to see other guys and he assumed i was sleeping around but i wasn't.

 

recently out of the blue i just asked him if he wants to date me. he gives me reasons why he thinks its unrealistic that we date but he wishes me well. then i never replied and after a couple weeks he said i was rude to not reciprocate his well wishes. and i just said i felt there was nothing to say coz i felt used by him.

[d0nnivain]

He was lashing out & trying to blame you for the end of whatever you had. He was trying to say it was more than sex for him but whether he realizes it or not, because you weren't gun-ho in the beginning, that was a factor in why he was unwilling to commit when you asked. He didn't trust your sincerity.

[cif]

His text is telling you that it was never about sex for him.

 

If you liked him you should have let him know. Looks like you played it so cool that he lost interest. He genuinely liked you, you didn't reciprocate, he moved on.