pies Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 I think it's a normal (maybe good? you got het number after all) response. :-)
preraph Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 She gave you the perfect response. Were you hoping she'd propose marriage or something? Use the number after the holidays and ask her out for a certain date and time to do a certain thing. Good luck.
organizedchaos Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 Hey guys - wondering if I should give up and let this girl go. Talking on Facebook a little yesterday evening and everything seemed good (long messages sent back and forth). I wished her a "happy thanksgiving and asked for her number saying that I would love to catch up with her after the holiday when she's not too busy." She replied giving her number and then said "Thanks, I hope you have a good thanksgiving as well!" Bad response? Should I move on? We are both college students and are a week away from finals. Thoughts? Sometimes I really wonder whatever happened to men these days. You carry on a conversation, you wished her a happy thanksgiving and asked for her number and she gave it to you. What is wrong in this scenario??? Just what else were you expecting her to say or do??? 1
organizedchaos Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 And if she doesn't want to meet me after the holidays... Don't f'n worry about that right now.
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 27, 2014 Author Posted November 27, 2014 She gave you the perfect response. Were you hoping she'd propose marriage or something? Use the number after the holidays and ask her out for a certain date and time to do a certain thing. Good luck. So it's a good sign?
smackie9 Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 Bro it can go either way. You shouldn't keep your eggs in one basket, chat up other girls, you might find one that isn't too busy.
veggirl Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 follow your username...get calm! she gave you her number, how in the world did you manage to flip that into "I should move on"? you are waaaay overthinking this and THAT is what will ruin it if you keep it up. chill out, call her after the holiday and ask her to get together to celebrate the end of finals or something!
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 27, 2014 Author Posted November 27, 2014 follow your username...get calm! she gave you her number, how in the world did you manage to flip that into "I should move on"? you are waaaay overthinking this and THAT is what will ruin it if you keep it up. chill out, call her after the holiday and ask her to get together to celebrate the end of finals or something! Hmm..I guess you're right
preraph Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 So it's a good sign? It's not a sign. She gave you exactly what you asked for. Now it's up to you to follow up after the holidays and ask her. I am just totally confused what other response you were waiting for that could possibly have been any more encouraging. She gave you her number. Use it after the holidays and not before.
organizedchaos Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 Hmm..I guess you're right Please clarify why you started this thread in the first place.
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 28, 2014 Author Posted November 28, 2014 Please clarify why you started this thread in the first place. Because in afraid I'm just falling for someone who will eventually friend zone me
organizedchaos Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Because in afraid I'm just falling for someone who will eventually friend zone me And what makes you think, based on what you wrote, that will happen???
smackie9 Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Because in afraid I'm just falling for someone who will eventually friend zone me Well then lets change things. Tip: never invest your feelings until you are officially in a relationship. When you start liking on someone too much you get obsessive, too eager, possessive, jealous...what happens? you turn them off. This thread tells me, you are getting too eager already. Kool it, and be too busy for her. If you are FB friends, then post photos of you going out and having a good time, or doing stuff. Never send her a bunch of text.....fade in and fade out.....don't make her a priority. You change your attitude, you will make yourself more desirable.
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 28, 2014 Author Posted November 28, 2014 And what makes you think, based on what you wrote, that will happen??? Well a month ago I had a coffee date (although I didn't call it this to her) with a girl I'm interested in. It turned out better than I expected and lasted over 2.5 hours. The ENTIRE time she didn't once look at her phone or watch to see the time, she was fully engaged in everything I said and wasn't afraid when she shared about herself and life. It was overall a great experience and I couldn't say anything bad about it. I sent her a message the next morning saying how it was great talking with her and she replied back that it was great talking with me too, and we continued in a little conversation. The following week I ended up weirdly running past her every single day. Up until the coffee date I had only seen her from time to time, but now i happen to notice her everyday. Is this subconscious? A couple times I passed her but was too timid to talk but noticed she looked at me each time and smiled from my peripheral vision. There was one morning she walked by and saw me and turned around to say "hello" and smiled. Finally, this past Friday she passed me again and I walked and talked with her on her way to class. Sadly, the weather was super crappy and it was very brief as we had to split to go to our classes. I guess I'm at a crossroads - am I overthinking everything? Should I just man up and go for it? I'm fearful that she's just nice and being friendly, and I'm reading too much into it all. Thoughts?
smackie9 Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Over thinking will be the demise of any chance you may get.
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 28, 2014 Author Posted November 28, 2014 Over thinking will be the demise of any chance you may get. Yeah but I just want to make sure I don't get hurt again
organizedchaos Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Yeah but I just want to make sure I don't get hurt again Then don't date. 1
GG3 Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Then don't date. Love is a risk. You have to take risks to find love. I mean this in agreement with the above quote. If you don't want to get hurt, then don't date. 1
Mrin Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 The OP's post in food: So the other day I was at this buffalo wings place. I sat down for a beer and some food. The waitress came over to take my order. I asked for a beer but didn't order food yet as I was on the fence between the traditional spicy or the garlic blue cheese encrusted wings. She left. When she came back to give me my beer I ordered the blue cheese wings. She said, "sure thing babe" and just walked away. WTF?! Think I should give up on ever getting my wings and just leave? 1
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 28, 2014 Author Posted November 28, 2014 Love is a risk. You have to take risks to find love. I mean this in agreement with the above quote. If you don't want to get hurt, then don't date. I guess I'll go for it and ask for a date!
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 29, 2014 Author Posted November 29, 2014 It's not a sign. She gave you exactly what you asked for. Now it's up to you to follow up after the holidays and ask her. I am just totally confused what other response you were waiting for that could possibly have been any more encouraging. She gave you her number. Use it after the holidays and not before. Why not before??
organizedchaos Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 Why not before?? Holy hell, because, and I quote what you told her you were going to do: I wished her a "happy thanksgiving and asked for her number saying that I would love to catch up with her after the holiday when she's not too busy."
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 29, 2014 Author Posted November 29, 2014 Holy hell, because, and I quote what you told her you were going to do: I just thought things might have changed from the community's response. Does it matter if I wait until after break due to her response?
Author CalmandCarryOn Posted November 29, 2014 Author Posted November 29, 2014 What does it mean when you meet a girl formally for the first time for a coffee date and in your conversation she ends up opening up to you about her dark and most difficult struggle? This involves counseling that she has just begun attending and working through it all. You find out a few months later that what she shared with you - you were the first person to know besides her family. She hadn't even told her friends and when she met you that day (again, it was the first time) she felt incredibly comfortable around you and able to share. What does that mean? Good sign?
CatalystNX Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 I would think so, yes. However, some people may actually find it easier to open up to a relative stranger about such things than their friends/family as there isn't the risk of any real consequences if they take it badly. I wouldn't think a date would be someone you'd bring such things up to, however. Are you two together now?
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