dl02 Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 There is a woman who I work with who recently has been acting odd near me. We work in opposite ends of the building (so I haven't seen much of her, as I have only worked there 4 months) but do occasionally have to work together. Firstly, around 3 months ago when we first met she passed me and smiled. I of course thought nothing of it. This occurred a few times. However, recently we've been seeing more of each other. I saw her looking at me from behind (reflection) and when I looked around, she quickly stopped looking and started playing with her hair, nervously looking away and avoiding eye contact. The largest give away was when I walked past her, said 'hello' (knowing she would look away) and tried to make eye contact. She blatantly looked away, staring at the wall and after a two second pause said 'hi' in an excited voice. Almost falling over. Yesterday, I almost walked into her and said sorry. She looked away, said nothing and started having a laughing fit. She then avoided entering the same room I was going in. I was also talking to the cleaner and she joined in but refused to look at or speak to me (is this a sign if disinterest as she didn't even acknowledge me)? Today, I was talking to her. She seemed fine briefly, smiled and looked down. I then (later) had another conversation. She smiled looked down and had an awkward look on her face (not smiling). Why was this? The thing is, she seems fine with everybody else (or at least better, as she is a nervous person). I know I could be intimidating her but I don't know why. I always smile and act friendly. Is this a sign of attraction? Why does she glance, look away and almost never make eye contact? I had a conversation with her. She initiated eye contact the whole time. I just hope she doesn't loose interest as I haven't seen her for 2 days. I joked and she burst out with the most awkward laugh. I've also seen her looking from a distance. She smiled the whole time and looked at me. On the way out that day I passed her again, she looked down and shouted 'hello!'. Are these positive signs of interest? Well, I had to spend two hours with her today (work related). She started asking me more personal questions, such as what I do etc. and made eye contact while talking. She laughed at my jokes and was generally talkative. There were some awkward pauses though, even after I said something, but on the whole it went well. Her speech also seemed elevated. Obviously, I still feel like I'm speculating. She seemed to get on with her work, more so than talking but would often stop what she was doing? I'm really not sure if she is interested but suppose some of her signs suggest so? One glaring issue. She's 26 and I'm 18. Basically, I told her I was 26 (pure chance I guessed her age because she excitedly said 'Wow! That's my age'. There's only 8 years difference and I've played along with it. Not for malicious purposes. Purely to make myself seem older and be taken more seriously. Now what?
craigjkt1 Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 (edited) You should don't lie about your age.... If you want to get her as your girlfriend... you should be honest to her about your exact age. No problem, if a girl is older 8 years than you and she fall love you. If she don't accept you because of your age, look for another girl. Edited November 29, 2014 by craigjkt1
bathtub-row Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 Lying about your age is pretty much a deal breaker, so that was a major bad move on your part. No matter what your reason was for doing it, that was a crappy thing to do. Also, I hate to say it, but this girl sounds pretty immature and if you did date her, I doubt she'd keep her mouth shut about it at work. And if it fell apart, which it probably will, then she would probably act even more ridiculous at work than she does now. You should probably let her know that you lied to her, and then stay away from her.
Author dl02 Posted November 29, 2014 Author Posted November 29, 2014 Lying about your age is pretty much a deal breaker, so that was a major bad move on your part. No matter what your reason was for doing it, that was a crappy thing to do. Also, I hate to say it, but this girl sounds pretty immature and if you did date her, I doubt she'd keep her mouth shut about it at work. And if it fell apart, which it probably will, then she would probably act even more ridiculous at work than she does now. You should probably let her know that you lied to her, and then stay away from her. I will let her know, before she hears it from someone else. Is staying away from her really necessary? Does she sound interested? I lied for one simple reason. To be taken more seriously. 1
CarrieT Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 You won't be taken seriously once the lie is revealed; that, all by itself, displays your immaturity. You just don't see that yet.
FitChick Posted November 29, 2014 Posted November 29, 2014 Eight years difference when you are young is bigger than if you are middle aged. Still, it seems more and more women are dating younger guys so go for it. I would keep dating a secret from coworkers though, regardless of age.
Author dl02 Posted November 29, 2014 Author Posted November 29, 2014 Eight years difference when you are young is bigger than if you are middle aged. Still, it seems more and more women are dating younger guys so go for it. I would keep dating a secret from coworkers though, regardless of age. Does she sound interested?
FitChick Posted November 30, 2014 Posted November 30, 2014 Does she sound interested? I can only go by what you said which may or may not be true.
Author dl02 Posted November 30, 2014 Author Posted November 30, 2014 I can only go by what you said which may or may not be true. Based on what I said (which is true) is she interested?
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