Phxxxxxxxx Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 We are both 23yrs old....she told me last week she needed some space to her self! We have a 2 yr old daughter together and like the last couple of months she started to get more and more distant ..and we got to a point were every little thing turned into a fight!! Like i couldnt do anything with out her saying somthing or if it wasnt her way!! And i would always try to sit her down and communicate about what was making her so upset and she wouldnt even talk to me she litteraly would go to sleep mad with her back facing me everyday ...no matter how hard i tried not to her mad she would go and find a reason to get mad at me lol...i had just recently lost my job and she was only one working and idk if that had somthing to do with it or what...but i also started to feel like she was hiding something from me and eveytime we would get in a big fight she would talk to other guys ...and just last week we she hit me with i think i need some space and i was ok with that kuz i felt like we need to cool down for while and let things calm down kuz she said she wasnt breaking up with me but she needed to be away from me! idk but i was fine with her decision kuz it was getting out of control and i didnt want my daughter seeing us argue ...the day after this i find out shes talking to some guy and i didnt really think nothing of it but something in my gut told me to go through her phone and wish i didnt! She was texting this 36 yr old dude but ther conversations were very intimate and she even went to his house! It made me sick to my stomach ku i really loved this girl and still want to be with her but i cant stoo thinking about her and that guy!! Its makingg me go insane! Like she told me she just need some space but i didnt know that **** woulda happend and i told her bout it and i was pissed off and she got mad and i told her that she makes me sick for doing that and she basically ended it right there saying she just wants to be alone and doesnt want a relationship right now with anybody...she told me she wasnt gna talk to me or him anymore...but she lied and still talked to him kuz he had his own house and a good job and what not but no **** when im 36 ill probaly have more than what he does..like they guy has a daugter our age! .and she was telling him all of our problems and he was supposably giving her advise and emotional support but i wasnt buying it i felt like this guy was taking advantage of her being confused from our issues and breakup...dont get me wrong went to this guys house and talked to him to his face and told him that i didnt like what was going on and that who was he to just pop outbof nowere and come between me and my family and wasnt there to fight or anything i just wanted to know why he would do such a thing kuz he invited her over and talked about me and my problems with her and they ended up kissing and touching and stuff...and i he sits there and lies to my face saying that she was never here when i had already read the messages...so he told me he was gna stop talking to her but she keeps looking for him and they started talking again and its making me nuts just thinking about it kuz i feel like shes being used by this guy and i love her shes the mother of my child i wouldnt want her to get hurt i just wish she would open her eyes or idk but she said she doesnt want to be win me right now but she still told me she loved me but that she want to focus on her self right now ...its breaks my heart to see her go like this and i do want her back in my life but she wont even listen to what i have to say ...and i cant stop thinking about what shes doing kuz i moved out of her house and she bring my daughter to me sometimes and we talk but not alot and she tells me shes happy alone and this and that but i feel like theres somthing i dont know....i cant sleep kuz theres just a million things going through my head idk what to do!?!?
Fer Goncalves Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 My Friend. My girl break up with me last year, and she said she wanted space. In that time i just run from her, but i disappear. because she began dating. That was my big error. When i want ed to return she has a boyfriend, for the worse for me the guy is a @&$&$@&, you know, like always but he have all the things that i dont, like money, the personality that give you making parties, etc. I think based on my experience that you have to give her space, make exercise, make yourself look some kind of changed and she will come. But when this happened dont freak if she is dating because she want to test you. You have a daughter in common and for this she is gonna be special all your life, thanks to her your a father, but you have to respect her.
PegNosePete Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Please use some line breaks and punctuation in your forum posts. I know you're upset but it's incredibly difficult to help you when reading your post is virtually impossible, and gives people a massive headache. Sorry to say, this woman is very clearly cheating on you. She is sending explicit texts and then going round to his house, that means 100% that sex happened that time, and probably many more times as well. She just needs some space, that actually means she needs space away from you so that she can do what she likes with this guy, without you looking over her shoulder. Dude you need to stop blaming the other guy. There is only one person responsible for her behaviour and that is HER! She is not being used, she is making a choice to have sex with another man. You need to tell her that you want nothing more to do with her any more, except regarding your daughter.
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