rov Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 (edited) Hi, today I went on a first date with a girl I met through tinder on Monday. We went for coffee and spent three hours hours together, she seem interested in what I talked and in my life. We laughed a lot, and she never took her cellphone to answer any messages in those 3 hours. I asked her what sport does she practice and she told me that tennis and I told her that I also play tennis so she told me that we should play one day together. She looked me a lot in the eyes, then she asked me what plans I had for the weekend. At the end of the coffee we parked our cars in more or less in the same are so she went walking with me to the parking lot. She said goodbye and told her that if she wanted to go to the movies on the weekend and she told me that we can see bird man or any other movie. I texted her telling her that I had a good time and that we laughed a lot and that I expect her to see her on the weekend. She replied: The same, I had a good time, it sounds like a good plan to go to the movies. So then I told her that I was going to sleep and said good night and good luck with the homework she had to do in the night and she told me: hey thanks!, have a good night. have some rest. Yesterday she texted me saying good morning, that was a surprise for me. So then I proceeded to ask her out on the weekend and she told me she was free on Friday and that she wanted me to pick her at her house, we will go to the movies to se bird man and then for dinner. I told her that I want to see a hard day´s night when it comes out at the cinema and she told me that she wants so see it with me. We texted all day yesterday My question is: should I attempt a move like holding hands in the movies or attempting a kiss tomorrow with her, if I want to kiss her should I ask her if I can kiss her? or how do i manage this situation?. Im not very experienced haha Edited November 28, 2014 by rov Link to post Share on other sites
Darren2013 Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 I would say yes. By the 2nd date it is usually the right time to make a move. If she turns her head away then you know she doesn't want it and then you can move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rov Posted November 28, 2014 Author Share Posted November 28, 2014 I would say yes. By the 2nd date it is usually the right time to make a move. If she turns her head away then you know she doesn't want it and then you can move on. So it would be better to attempt holding hands or the kiss on the second date? Link to post Share on other sites
Darren2013 Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 So it would be better to attempt holding hands or the kiss on the second date? I think so. First date you are going out with a total stranger. She might not accept a kiss on the first date if she's really shy or very conservative. If she accepts a 2nd date it's a good sign but not proof positive that she's interested. But I would feel better taking a risk trying to kiss her on the 2nd date than the 1st date. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rov Posted November 28, 2014 Author Share Posted November 28, 2014 I think so. First date you are going out with a total stranger. She might not accept a kiss on the first date if she's really shy or very conservative. If she accepts a 2nd date it's a good sign but not proof positive that she's interested. But I would feel better taking a risk trying to kiss her on the 2nd date than the 1st date. She told me that with her last boy fridn with whom she lasted to years, at the third date they were a couple :s. So I guess this girl wants things to move fast Link to post Share on other sites
Darren2013 Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 Yeah go in for the kiss and make sure it doesn't last longer than 1/2 a second. Beyond that let her initiate all the touching like holding hands. If she wants to molest you during the date and grab your crotch then that's fine. Enjoy it but don't go touching her. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2014 Share Posted November 28, 2014 Hold her hand during the movie & kiss her goodbye quickly at the end of the date. Spend a few minutes staring into her eyes & making sure she wants to be kissed 1st but do not verbalize, can I kiss you? Her body language will answer that question for you if you pay attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rov Posted November 29, 2014 Author Share Posted November 29, 2014 (edited) Well I am coming from the second date. We had a good time, we went to the movies and while waiting the start of the movie we spent an hour walking and talking in the mall, she only used her cellphone to text one time in the 5 hours I spent with her. I tried to make more physical contact with her by touching her hand and comparing her hand size to mine, I also told her that her hair looked great today. There was no kiss today. She ordered an orange juice and wanted me to take a zip from her drinking straw, is this a good sign, She also ordered popcorn at the movies and told me that the condition to order the popcorn was that I would help her eating them. I told her that if she would like to play tennis on Sunday but she told me that tomorrow she has a family event and then she will go to a nightclub with her friends in the night she will use Sunday to rest but told me that we can play another day. At the end of the date she said goodbye with a kiss on the cheek and told me she wants to see the movie a hard day´s night by the beatles in the cinema. I didn't send her any text after the date, I want to wait 2 days to contact her again Am I on the right track or Im ****ed up because there was no kiss or holding hands?, what should I do now?. Edited November 29, 2014 by rov 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 Well I am coming from the second date. We had a good time, we went to the movies and while waiting the start of the movie we spent an hour walking and talking in the mall, she only used her cellphone to text one time in the 5 hours I spent with her. I tried to make more physical contact with her by touching her hand and comparing her hand size to mine, I also told her that her hair looked great today. There was no kiss today. She ordered an orange juice and wanted me to take a zip from her drinking straw, is this a good sign, She also ordered popcorn at the movies and told me that the condition to order the popcorn was that I would help her eating them. I told her that if she would like to play tennis on Sunday but she told me that tomorrow she has a family event and then she will go to a nightclub with her friends in the night she will use Sunday to rest but told me that we can play another day. At the end of the date she said goodbye with a kiss on the cheek and told me she wants to see the movie a hard day´s night by the beatles in the cinema. I didn't send her any text after the date, I want to wait 2 days to contact her again Am I on the right track or Im ****ed up because there was no kiss or holding hands?, what should I do now?. Well, how did she react when you tried to make physical contact? If she didn't pull away, I don't see it going bad. You're the guy, you lead. Next date, lean in for the kiss at some point - probably at the end. Her letting you drink from her straw is a good sign, IMO. I don't let people share my stuff, they might have cooties!!! So, I think waiting the 2 days to contact her is fine. She told you she had plans for the next couple of days, I think waiting the two days would be appropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rov Posted November 29, 2014 Author Share Posted November 29, 2014 Well, how did she react when you tried to make physical contact? If she didn't pull away, I don't see it going bad. You're the guy, you lead. Next date, lean in for the kiss at some point - probably at the end. Her letting you drink from her straw is a good sign, IMO. I don't let people share my stuff, they might have cooties!!! So, I think waiting the 2 days to contact her is fine. She told you she had plans for the next couple of days, I think waiting the two days would be appropriate. She didn't pull away when I tried physical contact, she let me touch her hand and compare the size of there hand to mine. She actually whispered to my ear many times during the movie . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted November 29, 2014 Share Posted November 29, 2014 She didn't pull away when I tried physical contact, she let me touch her hand and compare the size of there hand to mine. She actually whispered to my ear many times during the movie . Well, there you go...next date, you need to make a move and get a kiss in. I do the same with someone when I am giving them the "green light" that I'm into them. Through out the date I'm doing a lot of light touches, and I've done the "whispering" too. Sometimes I'll lean into them and act like I can't hear them, so they'll whisper in my ear... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rov Posted November 29, 2014 Author Share Posted November 29, 2014 (edited) why is it silly to not compare what she did with her last guy? surely this information is amazing and critical for any guy to know if he is wasting his time?!!! So you think Im wasting my time with this girl or there is at least some interest? But does it sound like she is interested even considering that there was no kiss or holding hands in this second date? Edited November 29, 2014 by rov Link to post Share on other sites
Author rov Posted November 29, 2014 Author Share Posted November 29, 2014 Yesterday at the end of the date I texted her when i arrived home and told her I had a great time and had a lot of fun. She hasn't replied back :S Link to post Share on other sites
Author rov Posted November 30, 2014 Author Share Posted November 30, 2014 She accepted my third date and I will see her on Thursday. I was thinking in buying her some flowers for this day. I was thinking in holding hands with her at the movies, is this a good idea?. Can you give me some tips to find a place and how to kiss her, I was thinking in kissing her in the car, how should i approach her ?, I am not that experienced in dating haha. Link to post Share on other sites
smg15 Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 It maybe hard for a shy guy to make a move in public, so she probably would have to be at his place Link to post Share on other sites
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