xox Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Hi friends, I got myself stuck into a pickle and I don't know how to get out of it.... So I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years out of anger. He was talking to this girl that I was not fond of, so I asked him why he was talking to her if he knew how I felt about her. He said that he was sorry I felt that way, and that he only looked at her like a guy friend, but if I wanted him to stop talking to her just so we don't argue about this again then he will. So the next day he never really told me if he would stop talking to her or not, he just asked me how my day was and I said back to him that if he couldn't understand me and how I was feeling then he shouldn't talk me until he does something about it. So he told me that he would stop talking to her, and since he works out of town for 2 week straights he said he misses me and that hopefully we can talk the next day. So the next day comes and he doesn't call me or anything. I call him and he doesn't pick up, so he pretty much got mad because I was mad. So the following day is the day he comes back for his one week of break from work and I usually would go over and see him on the day he gets back. I call him and he decides to not pick up, so I text him to let him know that I will be coming over. He replies and tells me that he doesn't want me to come over and that he just wants some space. So I got upset that after 2 weeks of not seeing each other he doesn't want to see me. So obviously my anger took over my emotions and I told him that since he needed so much space we shouldn't be together, and he replies and says okay if that's what you want. I thought about what I said that whole day and I obviously regret it so I decide to message him and apologize telling him I only said that out of anger and that he should know how much I love him and that I would never want to break up with him. He then tells me that he doesn't want to do this anymore and that this is the last straw. And he begins telling me that I never made him happy and started saying all these horrible things to me. I don't know if he said them because he was angry or not. But he told me to leave him alone and to stay away from him. He knows how I think, so he started to do all these things to piss me off and annoy me. Its only been a couple days and I'm obviously still hurting, I want to message him but I'm sure he still knows that I want to get back together. All my friends and his friends are telling me that we'll get back together because we've broke up and got back together before but I really feel like he is done. I'm just so lost and upset, I'm trying so hard to do no contact, but I feel like if I keep up with this no contact thing, he will just move on and that I will lose him forever. I know that he does love me though. What would you do?
The Poster Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Just let him be. I think you both could use the space to cool down and get your emotions under control. I know it's hard to not talk to him, but if you keep bothering him you're only going to push him farther away. Just let him be and use this time to work on the things you need to work on, and let the chips fall where they may.
Fer Goncalves Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 When someone ask you for space you have to give him this space. I know is hard. But you have to know that sometimes is the best for you, because maybe he is scare of the relation if its going to another level or like in my case there is somebody that is around him that he is interested or catch up his attention. If it's so dont get frustrated. He is not the right one for you. When you lose your time watching for somebody in front of you there is always a person a your side who is watching you, began to watch around you, for a special one.
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