justtrying Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Hi guys, for anyone struggling, stay strong, for people offering advice, thank you! Here's my dilemma.. A lot of my friends live in China (they all moved together for a year or 2, I'm in the US). I've been offered air miles by a family member and the chance to go there and back for free. The only catch is the flights are on specific dates so I'd have to go for 1.5 months. Now this is great and I feel really really lucky but I'm worried about telling my girlfriend. The way I see it is she should be able to handle 6 weeks without me if she's really serious about us (she always says she is). Is it really that simple? I should go because we should easily be able to handle it and if we can't handle it we shouldn't be together anyway? What would you do? Thanks guys
preraph Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 I think you should go if you want to go. This is a rare opportunity for you and if she wants to hold you back from these type of opportunities, I'm afraid she'll drag you down and keep you standing in place in general by only thinking about her needs. Let's hope she's not like that. You haven't said anything yet. Just tell her it's too big an opportunity to pass up and that she will be in your heart every step of the way and know you'll miss her. Just be sure she realizes this is a vacation, not a separation or breakup. And be prepared for her to go on a vacation of her own in the future without any squawking from you. Bon voyage.
Author justtrying Posted November 28, 2014 Author Posted November 28, 2014 I think you should go if you want to go. This is a rare opportunity for you and if she wants to hold you back from these type of opportunities, I'm afraid she'll drag you down and keep you standing in place in general by only thinking about her needs. Let's hope she's not like that. You haven't said anything yet. Just tell her it's too big an opportunity to pass up and that she will be in your heart every step of the way and know you'll miss her. Just be sure she realizes this is a vacation, not a separation or breakup. And be prepared for her to go on a vacation of her own in the future without any squawking from you. Bon voyage. I do want to go, I'd miss her a lot but if we really are what we say we are then we'll have years and years and years together so is 1.5 months that big of a deal? Thank you.
Author justtrying Posted November 28, 2014 Author Posted November 28, 2014 You should go. Because if we couldn't last through it we shouldn't be together anyway? 1
smackie9 Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Many survive a LDR. You both can Skype and still keep the fire burning. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 I'm assuming you are young & dating. If you are married & have kids, talk to her before you do anything. If you are not married with kids, GO. It's 45 days. That's hardly a blip in the grand scheme & you will have technology to keep in touch. What's a good reason to not go? To make her happy while making yourself unhappy & possibly saddling yourself with a lifetime of regret? That's not a good reason to stay.
FitChick Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 Go. Promise to buy her some fake luxury item, like a Vuitton or Chanel bag.
Mandy26 Posted November 28, 2014 Posted November 28, 2014 You should go- what a great opportunity! 6 weeks can go by quickly and in this day and age communicating while you are away should be much easier - have fun:)
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