Themanwithaplan Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 My new girl is great. Its unconventional. We see each other for a couple weeks every couple months. I flew to her state recently for a week and we had a few magical nights that will no doubt live on in my memories forever. We both agreed at the end of the trip it was pretty impressive we spent such a long time together(24/7 for a week) and didn't want it to end yet. My point is that she's got my attention so that's something to consider with my major quirk with her: Early on, there were moments where we'd be talking and all the sudden she'd respond really loudly and almost exponentially increase the volume of her voice. It would happen while talking about something she was excited,mad,happy,emotional etc about. I dismissed it as her being nervous because she is kind of an anxious person. I really noticed it when we had gone out drinking and I had a little too much. We were back at her place and I forget what she was going on about but the room was just spinning around me and the loud talking was like the focal point of all the unpleasantness in the world at that moment in my world. I ended up puking for a while. I don't blame her, but let's just say I wouldn't want to relive the experience. Not that I'm self conscious, but at quieter restaurants, I always feel like the focal point of the room during these loud rants. I understand that some people just speak louder than others and I'm willing to accept her extremely annoying loud talking. I don't like stone walling her just to shut her up. I also don't want her to feel like she has to change herself. Ladies would you feel like your man was crossing the line if he approached you delicately about something like this?
todreaminblue Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 i often talk too loud( i have a friend who is nearly deaf and is always asking me to repeat myself.so i often speak louder than i should because its habitual....) and the people who love me say hey deb you are speaking loudly....because i dont realize i actually am.....i am grateful to be told.....no one tells me meanly to shut up or demandingly tells me to stop speaKING.....they just let me know i am speaking loudly and i quieten my voice.i normally apologise.........its that easy..and its not offensive in the slightest to be made aware to speak on a more subdued level.......deb
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 I'm interested in hearing responses to this because I have a friend who is the exact same way. We could be in a restaurant or bar or just walking through the halls at work and she will suddenly become very loud and animated regarding whatever situation she's re-enacting. It can be kinda embarrassing at times and I can't figure out if she's just oblivious or seeking attention. How do you address that without causing tension or offending the other person??
Emilia Posted November 27, 2014 Posted November 27, 2014 I would want to know. I would feel bad for a little while but would get over it. Likely it wouldn't be the first time I had been told either.
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