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I keep thinking of relationships and sex as a prize to be won, to be gained. I can never see them as something that just "happens". Obviously I've never had either of those so it makes it pretty hard to see as something that's a natural occurrence. Does anyone have any tips for not thinking this way?

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I agree with you....of the relationships I've had over the years NONE of them were like in the movies...

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Just start by valuing your friendships and staying social and continuing to broaden your interests and enjoy things for what they are. Don't look at it as "Once I get a gf, I will go go this." Go do it now. Don't look at friends as only interested if you think sex is in the future. Enjoy them for what they are now. Let relationships of every kind become natural for you by practicing having friends and being social and one of these days while you're doing something you like doing a lot anyway, you may find yourself ignoring the girl next to you and then sleep on it and realize she's nice and she's friendly and you like the same things, and there you go. Don't get in a hurry. Just stay busy and social and don't let yourself isolate at home doing solitary things most of the time when you're young. There is puhlenty of time for that once you get old like me!

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Maybe you can view a relationship as a goal, with sex in the relationship being a bonus for achieving that goal.

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