Think my gf (maybe ex now) has borderline personality disorder

[Dustin0308]

This is what she sent to me. She knows she is struggling with her own emotions. Its tough. Idk what to do.

 

"You do make me happy.. I'm unhappy with myself you deserve so much better then me I still have a lot of growing to do and I don't want you to stumble because if my messiness."

[nofeelings22]

I know this should be easy to deal with but it isn't. I have strong feelings for this girl and although it seems like it won't work, I always hold out hope. Part of me does feel bad for her..shes in a fight that nobody understands and she can't control herself. And me leaving her, or in her mind, abandoning her will only make it worse. I don't want to have to leave her bc I recognize some very great, amazing qualities in her. Physically she is gorgeous. Just tough on what I should do. I know she knows Im thinking about things bc we haven't talked even though she has wanted to. Im seriously just confused. IDK what i should do. My heart is pulling me in two different directions.

 

We all understand her fight perfectly well.

 

I helped mine fight the good fight for 12 years. Got the voices in her head down to only 1 from 6. Incredible progress!

 

But you will literally be sacrificing your entire life to help her.

 

Take it from someone who has been right where you are... there are other super hotties out there without mental illness. Work on getting a different one while you are still young.

 

It's a lot harder as you get older... and this *will* end in disaster for you.

 

You'll have to start all over again at a much older age. Do it right from the start and you'll live a much happier life.

 

I put in about 30 hours a week working on helping/fixing mine. Ultimately, I lost 12 years of my life and was very stressed out. Save yourself now,

[Dustin0308]

Thank you for replying. How I always look at things is different at times. I sometimes show too much compassion. I try to put the shoe on the other foot so to speak. If I were in her position, would I want someone I love to leave me? No. I wouldn't. I would want them to stay and help me through this. So that's why it is so hard. I honestly don't want to leave her. It doesn't mean I shouldnt. I just don't want to. Idk what I will decide and think time is needed to see where we stand. Idk.

[Onlyafterdark]

As no feelings says and i know i did the same 14 years gone, ive struggled to come to terms

With what this woman has put me through. Read my full story see if it relates, we have been apart now 4months its as though i never existed . 2 new guys that i know off in the past month introduced the newest to my kids after 1 week she told me hes amazing etc i said wtf after 1 week you know this. Like downtown told me he will now be her next victim

These ppl have no empathy i see pictures of her and him on fb but normal ppl dont act in this cruel way.

Please if your reading all these posts listen i wish i could now turn my time back im 40 and its true its harder to meet ppl but il tell you this guys ive just met a nice hot blonde and im slowly getting happy again, i know il be scarred for life by this woman and id never wish this on anyone but how shes treated me i hope she gets a guy or 2 that doest allow what happened to me and just maybe one of them gives her a bloody slap or she gets treated like crap and realises what she actually had