EC Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 So lets say you had a somewhat perfect relationship..and you have been with this person for a while..and they haven't really done anything wrong you just realized you want to be single again...How would you go about breaking up? (no its not me even though I have posted these same thoughts on a previous post today)
FolderWife Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Honesty is the best policy! Don't make the guy or girl live the rest of their life wondering what went wrong....just tell them for gosh sakes! But that's honestly a really dumb reason, UNLESS she's got some guy in mind that she wants to screw, and she can't as long as she has a boyfriend, so up! she wants to be single. People aren't STUPID!
Author EC Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 Honesty.....Thats what I said..but I want her to read others posts for herself..... She doesn't have another guy she just wants to be single and not break his heart..so shes looking for a nice way to say it.
GirlDown Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by Monday Honesty is the best policy! Don't make the guy or girl live the rest of their life wondering what went wrong....just tell them for gosh sakes! But that's honestly a really dumb reason, UNLESS she's got some guy in mind that she wants to screw, and she can't as long as she has a boyfriend, so up! she wants to be single. People aren't STUPID! i don't know....i think it's possible that when people say "i just don't want a relationship right now" they really mean just that...they don't want a relationship right now. i've said it, i've meant it. the best thing to do is be honest. even if there was "a guy in mind to screw" it's better to not be involved. and screwing a guy doesn't mean you want a relationship, so it's still true...
Author EC Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 Nah she don't want me I tried...lol Nice avie TIKI...lol
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 How would you go about breaking up? By being gently honest and telling the person that you want to break up because you want to be single again. Anything else besides the 'no looking back' truth will do nothing but prolong the agony of the breakup and harbor false hopes. The breakup will have to be firm, and as objective as possible. No need to be mean or anything, just firm and concise with a clear break and no offers of insincere friendship to 'soften the blow'. Your friend will be able to make the break, and the person getting broken up with will be knocked off his rockers, probably - but a swift break will heal more cleanly than a messy drawn out one. Tell the person that you need to talk to them, and arrange to meet at a place and when you get there say something along the lines of ... "look, there's no good way to say this so I just will. I don't want us to date anymore. I've had a great time, and I appreciate all you've done, but right now I just want to be on my own and not in a relationship. I know it hurts, and I'm sorry, and I don't expect you to understand but I want to end things." The best way is face to face, separate transportation, and in a fairly private but neutral place. Say what you have to, and then make a graceful and swift exit. The other person will likely react strongly, but there's no point in allowing the situation to escalate into arguing or 'friendship' negotiations.
tanbark813 Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 "Billy, I think you're a really great guy and I've enjoyed the time we've been together. The thing is, your cock is just way too huge for me. I can't handle it. Plus, I went to the doctor because I've been having some breathing trouble lately and he says that I've developed asthma from all the orgasms you give me when you pound me. He says I have to stop having sex with you because you're too powerful for me. I hope you can understand. I just feel that we need to break up so you can find someone else strong enough to handle your overwhelming man meat." That oughta work.
Author EC Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 By being gently honest and telling the person that you want to break up because you want to be single again. Anything else besides the 'no looking back' truth will do nothing but prolong the agony of the breakup and harbor false hopes. The breakup will have to be firm, and as objective as possible. No need to be mean or anything, just firm and concise with a clear break and no offers of insincere friendship to 'soften the blow'. Your friend will be able to make the break, and the person getting broken up with will be knocked off his rockers, probably - but a swift break will heal more cleanly than a messy drawn out one. Tell the person that you need to talk to them, and arrange to meet at a place and when you get there say something along the lines of ... "look, there's no good way to say this so I just will. I don't want us to date anymore. I've had a great time, and I appreciate all you've done, but right now I just want to be on my own and not in a relationship. I know it hurts, and I'm sorry, and I don't expect you to understand but I want to end things." The best way is face to face, separate transportation, and in a fairly private but neutral place. Say what you have to, and then make a graceful and swift exit. The other person will likely react strongly, but there's no point in allowing the situation to escalate into arguing or 'friendship' negotiations. Thats what I told her be honest and to the point..but the thing is they have a lot of history and she doesn't want this guy out of her life for good, just for now.... She basically wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants the freedom but she wants him there in the future.
Author EC Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 "Billy, I think you're a really great guy and I've enjoyed the time we've been together. The thing is, your cock is just way too huge for me. I can't handle it. Plus, I went to the doctor because I've been having some breathing trouble lately and he says that I've developed asthma from all the orgasms you give me when you pound me. He says I have to stop having sex with you because you're too powerful for me. I hope you can understand. I just feel that we need to break up so you can find someone else strong enough to handle your overwhelming man meat." That oughta work. :lmao:
FolderWife Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Well, ok, I can admit when I'm wrong. If she really just doesn't want a relationship right now...doesn't want to answer to someone, doesn't want to be tied down, etc...then just say, "I don't feel like I want to commit to a relationship right now. I feel like I need to be single, so I can find myself. It's nothing you've done, it's nothing I've done...it's just how I feel."
Author EC Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 Well, ok, I can admit when I'm wrong. If she really just doesn't want a relationship right now...doesn't want to answer to someone, doesn't want to be tied down, etc...then just say, "I don't feel like I want to commit to a relationship right now. I feel like I need to be single, so I can find myself. It's nothing you've done, it's nothing I've done...it's just how I feel." Yeah that'll work lol Its the truth and he can stick around if he wants.
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by EC Thats what I told her be honest and to the point..but the thing is they have a lot of history and she doesn't want this guy out of her life for good, just for now.... She basically wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants the freedom but she wants him there in the future. In that case, maybe she can pull the wool over his eyes with the "friends" BS. I hate to say it, but nine times out of ten thats what people are doing when they say "friends" - they want to reap the benefits of being with the person without having any obligation to them whatsoever - and assure that they will have something keeping warm on the back burner should they need it. I don't think its right or fair of your friend to do this and I strongly suggest the honest route instead - but if she wants to assure that he'll be there she can say: "I love you with all my heart, but I'm confused about what I want right now. I feel like I need to experience more out of life. I need some time alone to think about what it is I want and figure out what love means to me. That way, maybe we can be together in the future and our relationship will be stronger in the long run. I don't want to lose your friendship though, and I hope that you won't hate me for needing some time alone. Please tell me that you'll be there for me, because I love you and I don't want to lose you - I just don't think I can date you right now with all this stuff that is going on in my head." Her boyfriend will probably not understand that this translates roughly into "I want to be single, but keep you on the back burner". All hopeful people ever hear is the 'I love you' part, and that is what keeps them hanging on. You'll need to warn your friend though - sometimes this doesn't work. In fact, it could backlash badly if the boyfriend starts to pick up on it.
Author EC Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 My pussy is better than yours no uh huh! Just cuz yours is wet! w/e! In that case, maybe she can pull the wool over his eyes with the "friends" BS. I hate to say it, but nine times out of ten thats what people are doing when they say "friends" - they want to reap the benefits of being with the person without having any obligation to them whatsoever - and assure that they will have something keeping warm on the back burner should they need it. I don't think its right or fair of your friend to do this and I strongly suggest the honest route instead - but if she wants to assure that he'll be there she can say: "I love you with all my heart, but I'm confused about what I want right now. I feel like I need to experience more out of life. I need some time alone to think about what it is I want and figure out what love means to me. That way, maybe we can be together in the future and our relationship will be stronger in the long run. I don't want to lose your friendship though, and I hope that you won't hate me for needing some time alone. Please tell me that you'll be there for me, because I love you and I don't want to lose you - I just don't think I can date you right now with all this stuff that is going on in my head." Her boyfriend will probably not understand that this translates roughly into "I want to be single, but keep you on the back burner". All hopeful people ever hear is the 'I love you' part, and that is what keeps them hanging on. You'll need to warn your friend though - sometimes this doesn't work. In fact, it could backlash badly if the boyfriend starts to pick up on it. See I thought about all of this...but this guy really loves her and I think if she goes that route..he will be so hurt at the thought that she is questioning her love for him..he would flip. I dunno she's stuck like chuck. She either needs to leave him and reap the consequences of what happens or stay with him and cheat until he finds out, or stay with him.
FolderWife Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you've got til it's gone?
tanbark813 Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by EC I dunno she's stuck like chuck. She either needs to leave him and reap the consequences of what happens or stay with him and cheat until he finds out, or stay with him. 1. Leave him - He'll be hurt but he'll eventually appreciate her honesty. Once he heals from the hurt, he may or may not want to get back together later. He or she may find someone else in the meantime anyway. 2. Stay with him but cheat - When he finds out, if he's smart, that'll be the last thing he has to do with her. 3. Stay with him - She'll most likely end up resenting him since it's not what she truly wants to do. The first option leaves her the in the best situation long-term. It seems like a better choice than #2 or #3. Hopefully she isn't just looking for the easy way out.
Author EC Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 TB all of this I have told her...the decision is hers..I just want her to hear from others! Thanks Guys!
moimeme Posted March 19, 2005 Posted March 19, 2005 She basically wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants the freedom but she wants him there in the future "You cain't always get whut ya waant". Seriously, if this were some guy posting, people would be piling on him for being a total jerk. What nerve! Wants to go check out the competition but wants to keep him in reserve in case there's no better deal. She either needs to leave him and reap the consequences of what happens This is my vote.
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