I think my girlfriend is messing behind my back or may be my mind is insecure

[sanjuroy]

I have a girlfriend who is 3 years older to me. She is not that much pretty. Her parents are no more and she lives with her brother and sister in law who do not treats her well. Our relationship is now 4 years old and till last month everything was fine between us. Last month, she told me to ask her brother for marrying her otherwise they will arrange her marriage with someone else. As she told me, I started having trust issues in my relationship with her. Also, she was a lot friendly with guys from the beginning but I ignored that or I must say she had a very few female friends and a lot of guy friends. She becomes friendly with all guys whom she met whether in café, college, shop or anywhere. A year back, she told me that there was a guy in his class who proposed her but she rejected telling him that she loves me. I scolded that guy a lot over phone because he was sending some non-casual messages to her after that incident and I also told her not to talk with him again but recently I found that she did but only a casual chat that’s what I found in her phone. There was another incident in which she told me that a guy living in her neighborhood proposed her but she rejected him telling him that she’s committed. But, after few days, she was talking to him in the market about the rejection and she told me that too. Nowadays, I started remembering all those things and my trust level is deteriorating day by day. I always have thoughts that she is messing up with somebody behind my back and I started treating her like a liar. We fight after every couple of days and sometimes I feel that I am becoming controlling freak but on the other hand my mind says that she is planning to marry me as that way she will settle down easily and will enjoy her life like this again but also I am confused that my mind is messing up because I am doing nothing these days except working from home and my career is going nowhere. Kindly tell me that is she cheating or is there something with my mind and thoughts? Also, kindly tell me how I can confirm about her honesty with me because if I find that she is honest I will surely accept her or else I don’t want to become the victim of any plan or a player.

[lemonsugar]

She should break up with you. You sound like a douche. She's not pretty sorry but why do you care then if she isn't all that. Hopefully she finds someone better and nicer! What comes around goes around!!

[mav3rik]

She should break up with you. You sound like a douche. She's not pretty sorry but why do you care then if she isn't all that. Hopefully she finds someone better and nicer! What comes around goes around!!

 

I actually LOL'd but yeah, she should definitely break up with you OP.

 

If you don't find her pretty then what made you stay for 4 years?

I mean, I've never dated a beauty queen but I always treat my partners like she is the most beautiful person on earth. And it's not always about being pretty on the outside that always counts dude. I bet you are still on your early 20's with a mindset like this.