immrclingy Posted November 26, 2014 Posted November 26, 2014 usually im calm cool and collected but if i sense something is wrong i end up worrying about it alot and become clingy. texting alot, never relaxing . its awful i cant figure out why i do this though anyone got an idea?
doeblin Posted November 26, 2014 Posted November 26, 2014 Anxiety & low self-esteem, obviously. Search these topics on Loveshack, it's common. Also get some good books on mindfulness. 2
Maleficent Posted November 26, 2014 Posted November 26, 2014 I don't think it has so much to do with self-esteem. I do that too sometimes. It's like we see we are about to lose our partner and we think 'I have to do everything in my power to keep him/her!' And of course it never works...
Strength in Healing Posted November 26, 2014 Posted November 26, 2014 Relationships are a power struggle. Push/pull. You pull, they'll push. Pulling is ironically the worst thing you can do when they're pushing you away some. It is in fact an anxiety problem. 2
preraph Posted November 26, 2014 Posted November 26, 2014 Fear. You imagine the worst-case scenario, but you don't imagine it realistically. You imagine it devastating you, when in reality, you'll live. You may have had some degree of parental or friend abandonment when young that exacerbates it, but either way, it's a fear reaction. You need to spend some time with yourself, even by yourself, not living with anyone else, and discover that you are alright all on your own and can take care of yourself and not fall apart. That will give you a better foundation for relationships. You survived before you met her and you can and will do it again. Imagine the worst scenario and don't be melodramatic. Just ask yourself, okay, if I came home and found her in bed with another guy, what would I really do and how would I really feel. Yes, you'd be angry, hurt, in shock. But if you're at all a rational person, once the dust settled, you wouldn't love and respect her much anymore, and you'd be able to move on. 1
thehanes Posted November 26, 2014 Posted November 26, 2014 usually im calm cool and collected but if i sense something is wrong i end up worrying about it alot and become clingy. texting alot, never relaxing . its awful i cant figure out why i do this though anyone got an idea? self-confidence
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