sarrmir Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 sorry this is a long one.... So my friend who happens to be her co-worker set us up, we went on 2 dates, 5 hour long each, ( on first one I gave her a hug and on the second one I gave her a hug and also kiss on the cheek and she kissed me on the cheek too), two days after the second date, I gave her a call, she was happy and surprised at the same time with my call, and then we talked for like 20 mins , she said she wants me to be her plus 1 for her company’s Christmas party, which I said OK. Few days after we went to the Christmas party( 3rd date), we sat next to each other, I put my arm around her shoulder and kept caressing her shoulder very gently, and also since her hands were cold I kept putting her hands between mine warming them up ( so lots of handholding was involved ). At times, she was the one initiating holding hands and whatnot, so she was into it. She left me only a few times to go say hi to her coworkers (so I am sure she enjoyed me being next to her and caressing her) Later that night when we were at this hallway next to the main party venue and we pretty much were by ourselves, I tried to make a move and kiss her, when she not only turned her head, but also put her hand on my mouth, and then said we should head back inside. For the rest of the night, I just went with it and didn’t say a word. So she knew I was OK but not thrilled about it. With all that being said, I am kind of Not interested in her now, a day after the party with me not texting her, she texted me saying she wants to meet but I just ignored her text. Any advice on what to do next?
GTR King Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 She didn't reject you she wasn't ready to kiss yet. How can you not like a girl after she didn't kiss you?? She is really into you. My friend been on 7 dates with a girl and he not kissed yet.
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 It was the setting. This was a WORK thing for her -- No PDA allowed. Take her on another date & try again, this time outside of the possible view of her boss & co-workers. 1
LostOnes05 Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 I'd have to agree with the other posters. She may not have been ready and it could have been the setting. The fact that she sent you a message to hang out again is a good indication that she is still interested in you. I would talk to her and go out again and see what happens. Don't give up just yet...
Author sarrmir Posted November 25, 2014 Author Posted November 25, 2014 it was like a turn off for me what she did, I dont have as much feelings for her that I used to have
Omei Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 (edited) it was like a turn off for me what she did, I dont have as much feelings for her that I used to have Then its your loss if you can only consider your feelings and not hers also with the situation. I wouldnt kiss someone at work party ither, esp knowing all my coworkers are around or could come in. It was a bad place for a first kiss Edited November 25, 2014 by Omei
Dallers Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 If a girl rejected me when I tried to kiss her I would have so much respect for her for turning me down. I would then pursue like mad and open up my magic trick box which I keep only for the most unique girls who are worthy of my time. You sound a little soft to me OP.
Chemist Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 I once tried to kiss a girl, she turned her cheek to me. A few days later we talked about it. She asked me why I did that, and I said because it felt right. We made out that weekend. And then I dated her for 2 years.
Blakely Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 (edited) Ive turned guys down that I really wanted to kiss. Either because of bad timing or I could tell it would lead to more and didn't want to set myself up for regret! It showed me if they respected my feelings and how into me they truly were. Doesn't sound as though you like her as a person. What are your intentions? Maybe you came onto her too strongly and caught her off guard? Just lighten up and try again when the situation is first kiss appropriate! Or move on to the next. But don't ignore the poor girl, that's kind of douchey on your part. Edited November 25, 2014 by Blakely
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