gormley Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Hi Guess I know the answer to this but would appreciate some views. My wife of only 6months left 3 months ago saying I had been emotionally abusive to her. We'd been together for 5 years, she has a 12yoa girl who had been living with us for the 5 years and we have a 2yoa girl together too. I have suffered from bouts of depression and this was untreated (and unrecognised) by me 2 years ago soon after our daughter was born. It was a difficult time with a house move, builders etc and I must admit I was angry and intimidating at times. But we got through, had some counselling and put it behind us. Anyway she has now left and isn't allowing me to see our daughter. She has already issued divorce papers but haven't heard anything else from her lawyers for 3 weeks now. We had a chance meeting last week and I told her I loved her and didn't want this. She said that being a single parent again was her greatest fear and that it was my fault. She also made some untrue allegations about making a pass at her friend and sleeping with someone else. She's rightfully angry about some of the things I have said and done but also angry about stuff I haven't. She's not perfect too and has her own problems but I'm being blamed for everything. I emailed later in the day and asked if she wanted to meet but have had no response. Since she left I have been sorting myself out with counselling etc. I guess it's over but was hoping that she may see that I'm am working on my issues and rethink things in the future. Any views/advice on this and whether anyone has come back from the brink like this.
lolablue17 Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 What???!!!! SHE is not allowing you to see your daughter??!!! Go to a lawyer immediately! It's your daughter exactly as it's hers. She has no right to keep your away from your daughter. In my country i would go straight to the police. 2
Author gormley Posted November 25, 2014 Author Posted November 25, 2014 Got the lawyer but she says go gently as could seen as further harassment. Any ideas about the relationship. She left quickly and hoping she starts to realise she misses me but I think friends will just keep influencing Her the wrong way.
lolablue17 Posted November 26, 2014 Posted November 26, 2014 Got the lawyer but she says go gently as could seen as further harassment. Any ideas about the relationship. She left quickly and hoping she starts to realise she misses me but I think friends will just keep influencing Her the wrong way. Who cares what she says? record her saying that, (or don't record her) and send your lawyer to get a court order. You don't really have anything to lose because she keeps your daughter away from you anyway. In my country she's considered as a child abuser, to prevent a little girl from meeting her father. You have to decide whether you fight her or let her do what she wants only for the hope she'll want you back.
Author gormley Posted November 26, 2014 Author Posted November 26, 2014 Yep you're right. Got to fight. Knackered and depressed and worn down by it. Used to be full of fight but have lost my old self.
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