Tyler.OH Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 My ex girlfriend and I stated dating very soon after a relationship that had lasted a little over a year with her ex boyfriend. In fact we started talking and getting to know each other while their relationship was coming to an end, which was the last 2 months of their relationship. I decided to pursue a relationship with her just about 2 weeks after they had broken up. We got to know each other very fast and were together just about every day. Our relationship lasted a 2 months of serious "talking"and 4 months of actually dating. She met my family and I was quick to meet hers. We slept at each others houses often, and I got to know her very well. It seemed like we had a great bond.. that is until the last month of our relationship. I had asked her a before if she still had feelings for her ex and she was very honest when she said she did still have feelings for him. I thought we could work through it, however, it didn't work out the way I had hoped it would. The last month of our relationship we had began to argue over things she never cared about before. She had gone through stages where she would get depressed and became easy to anger as well as more distant with me. Finally, she broke up with me. She said she never had time to herself and to heal and really get over her ex. She said she still has feelings for him, and would think about him every once in a while. Her ex is currently in a relationship, and I have heard for a reliable source that she has started grieving her ex. I had asked her right before we broke up if she could still picture a long term relationship with me and she said, as of now I can't but maybe in the future. She had mentioned in the past that she felt a little guilty when she started talking to me and getting to know me while her and her ex were still dating, does this play a part in what happened? I have been told that I am a very romantic and a really nice guy through friends and past ex's, her ex was like that in the beginning of their relationship but he failed to keep that up. I am almost positive she liked the idea of what her ex once was and misses that part in him. We ended on a good note although with out her saying "can we still be friends" I was first to tell her I couldn't go from a relationship with her to just being friends and that I couldn't talk to her for a while, she said she understood and that I would have to be the first one to make contact with her if that were the case. After getting to know her I realized two things, I was her rebound and she was the girl of my dreams. I am wondering as a rebound if I give her time to heal, do I even have a chance in the future? Or did she never really like me as a boyfriend? What steps can I take to get her back? If you could give me any advice what so ever, it would be truly appreciated.
Invictus01 Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Dude, read "If you want her back" in the Second Chance section, it will tell you everything you need to know. But basically, if you want her back and if it meant to be, you need to let her go and move on. If she comes back, you can work on it. If she doesn't... you can't make her, no matter what. Not trying to be make you feel bad or something because I am in a exactly the same position right now. Sucks but life goes on.
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