redalert11 Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 (edited) Ok so here is the deal. A few weeks back I met this dancer girl at a non nude go go bar. I saw her dancing and we just started staring at each other, I mean for at least 5 min on and off. I was intrigued because I don't usually get this kind of attraction from women. I told her I wasn't interested in paying for sex thinking she had some motive. There was mad chemistry between us, she felt it and I felt it. She gave me her number and I called her a few days later, we talked for an hour, the conversation good and I asked her to meet. She said ok. We went to get a bite to eat, it was very casual and comfortable. I thought we hit it off. She even made the first move and we kissed a few times. We went for a brief walk by the water next to her house for a few min, sat on a park bench and kissed some more. I like to take things slow so I took her home and said goodbye. She asked me to text her when I got home and I complied. In the following weeks we texted lightly and had a few phone conversations, no biggie. I visited her at the club a few times and every time I went she was playful and was genuinely glad to see me. We kept texting a bit and I told her I wanted to go see her again and get to know her better. She was doing a modeling show in NYC one night and asked me to attend. Initially I said ok but it was very short notice, few hours ahead. Besides it was an upscale club and I didn't feel like shelling out $14 for a drink and I like to drink. So I retracted and said I had work next morning and politely apologized that I would not attend after all and for her to let me know how it went. She texted me that night and said she was on her way home. Next day I text her and we exchanged hellos for a bit and some light talk I ask her fashion show went. In mid text conversation she stops responding and finally answers my question 22 hours later. I was pissed and didn't respond. 2 days go by and on Saturday she calls me out of the blue says she is stuck for a ride with a friend God knows where not even asking how I'm doing or not apologizing for cutting our text conversation 2 days earlier. Feel like I'm about to get used I tell her I'll take her home for $80 still pissed, mind you it costs $26 just to cross a bridge to and fro NJ where I live. She lives in NYC. She tells me she'll ask her friend and will call me back. I was pissed and told myself she is a user and only decided to call me when she needed some help. It's Tue and I still have not heard back though I'm not entirely sure I want to though sometimes when I think of her eyes, her smile, and our easiness together it makes me long for that once more. I'm not sure if I should pursue further or just let it go. It feels like a lot is unfinished between us nonetheless. I know if I go no contact she will probably not respond either. Any input would be appreciated. Edited November 25, 2014 by redalert11
Arieswoman Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 redalert11, She's a user, you dodged a bullet - move on.
GTR King Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 I say just leave her to it. You couldn't go to her thing because the drinks were to high and now she flaking and only wanted you when she had something on. Best to stop being pissed at her and move on. If she contacts you don't text straight away maybe 10-30mins later (But up to you) and see what she has to say etc. But don't fall for her fix he gonna mess you around...
d0nnivain Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Let go of her & the anger. It will only eat you alive. It was fun for a night but not long term. She wants a sugar daddy & you don't want to be that. BTW what do you drive? It's only $14 for a regular car to use the bridges & tunnels if you don't have easy pass & that's the higher rate starting next week. Why is it $26 for you or are you adding in the tolls for the parkway / turnpike? 1
Redhead14 Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Ok so here is the deal. A few weeks back I met this dancer girl at a non nude go go bar. I saw her dancing and we just started staring at each other, I mean for at least 5 min on and off. I was intrigued because I don't usually get this kind of attraction from women. I told her I wasn't interested in paying for sex thinking she had some motive. There was mad chemistry between us, she felt it and I felt it. She gave me her number and I called her a few days later, we talked for an hour, the conversation good and I asked her to meet. She said ok. We went to get a bite to eat, it was very casual and comfortable. I thought we hit it off. She even made the first move and we kissed a few times. We went for a brief walk by the water next to her house for a few min, sat on a park bench and kissed some more. I like to take things slow so I took her home and said goodbye. She asked me to text her when I got home and I complied. In the following weeks we texted lightly and had a few phone conversations, no biggie. I visited her at the club a few times and every time I went she was playful and was genuinely glad to see me. We kept texting a bit and I told her I wanted to go see her again and get to know her better. She was doing a modeling show in NYC one night and asked me to attend. Initially I said ok but it was very short notice, few hours ahead. Besides it was an upscale club and I didn't feel like shelling out $14 for a drink and I like to drink. So I retracted and said I had work next morning and politely apologized that I would not attend after all and for her to let me know how it went. She texted me that night and said she was on her way home. Next day I text her and we exchanged hellos for a bit and some light talk I ask her fashion show went. In mid text conversation she stops responding and finally answers my question 22 hours later. I was pissed and didn't respond. 2 days go by and on Saturday she calls me out of the blue says she is stuck for a ride with a friend God knows where not even asking how I'm doing or not apologizing for cutting our text conversation 2 days earlier. Feel like I'm about to get used I tell her I'll take her home for $80 still pissed, mind you it costs $26 just to cross a bridge to and fro NJ where I live. She lives in NYC. She tells me she'll ask her friend and will call me back. I was pissed and told myself she is a user and only decided to call me when she needed some help. It's Tue and I still have not heard back though I'm not entirely sure I want to though sometimes when I think of her eyes, her smile, and our easiness together it makes me long for that once more. I'm not sure if I should pursue further or just let it go. It feels like a lot is unfinished between us nonetheless. I know if I go no contact she will probably not respond either. Any input would be appreciated. She is a dancer in a go go bar. She is nice to every guy and likely has chemistry with most of them. It's not chemistry, it's hormones. Move on. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 I met this dancer girl at a non nude go go bar She lives in NYC. Any input would be appreciated You need get her out of my hood. NYC is full of wack chicks already. Take her to Jersey and keep her there. It'll be one less I have to deal with.
Author redalert11 Posted November 26, 2014 Author Posted November 26, 2014 Thanks for the replies. Verezzano Bridge 2 ways is $26. I'm over it anyway, if she cared about me she would have called and said what's going on. Mature people who think they have a connection with others and think they want them in their lives know that good friends/lovers in this world are hard to find. That's my take anyway. Still even a bad connection is a connection nonetheless hence my post.
Author redalert11 Posted December 1, 2014 Author Posted December 1, 2014 Ok I decided to text this girl once again. I wished her Happy Thanksgiving and that I still was interested in her. She replied back right away and I left it at that. Next day she texts me that she's dancing at the club if I wanted to stop by. I go to the club and again we lock eyes and its instant chemistry. She dances for a bit and comes to talk to me, on and off like that the whole time I'm there. She even offers me a free lapdance. I comply and she's grinding on me for at least 10 minutes, very comfortable, nothing outrageous. At the end of the night I stay a bit for her to come out so I can say goodbye. I get tired of waiting and text her that I'm leaving if she wants a ride home. She declines and thanks me for coming and that she'll call me tomorrow. I reply back and we're having a text conversation for like 30 min. I ask her a question and all of a sudden no reply, nothing. I get a response 10 hours later with no, sorry I fell asleep, or I had to go, whatever. I politely say "10 hours later?" and ask her when we're in mid conversation why she just disappears and I'd like her to at least end the conversation properly. Its a day later and I still have not gotten a response. I don't freaking understand. When I'm with this girl both of us are really into each other and in the moment but then she pulls this crap. I'm at a loss here.
bubbletea Posted December 1, 2014 Posted December 1, 2014 Sounds like you are hanging on her every thread, not the other way around... That's all
Author redalert11 Posted December 1, 2014 Author Posted December 1, 2014 (edited) Sounds like you are hanging on her every thread, not the other way around... That's all I'm really not I just think its common courtesy to end a conversation. I don't care if she doesn't text me for a week but when she does and we're having a conversation back and forth not to leave me in limbo. Regardless I'm going NO CONTACT if she wants to talk to me I'll still bring up the fact that she flakes, if she apologizes then fine otherwise I'm out. I don't need this crap. Edited December 1, 2014 by redalert11
Author redalert11 Posted December 2, 2014 Author Posted December 2, 2014 I know I'm probably over thinking this but does that sound clingy if I asked her how come she just ended the conversation without warning? Would this be a red flag for you? I was just being honest and not confrontational.
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