rosessosweet Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Hello, Im having a little bit of a problem, and could use some advice. My boyfriend, of 8 months, has been lying about his past, to me. His ex girlfrind recently texted him things like, "she does not love you", "Ive broken up with my boyfriend ,i'm single ". she is refuting to me. So I flat out told her she needs to stop her behavior is inappropriate and she needs to stop being so dispirit. She did not respond so I'm hoping she got the hint. But there was just this feeling I could not shake that something was up. So I did what any girl who read way to many Nancy Drew books, I snooped on Facebook. I'm not proud to admit but I want back 2 years on his Facebook to before they started dating and I seen a post from the ex saying that she likes his hugs. At the time he was dating another women. Under the comment of her liking his hugs, the current girlfriends sister, said that that comment is inapropriate and they should get their stories straight before they divide to lye about hanging out together. I got so scared after seeing this, this implies that this ex was harassing his other old girlfriends. He even could have used her to cheat in the past. Now one inside the like this is not really something I'd get to worked up about. However, this and the combination of his mom letting it slip that the girlfriend he had before me thought he was cheating. I asked him about this exs involvement in his old relationship he said that he did not know her when he was dating the other girl. The prof is right there though he's lieing to me, and I don't know what to do. Do I confront him and tell I'm that there is proff that she was talking and inapropriately hanging out with her while he was dating another girl. I don't know what to do. Cheating is not in my nature, I dont like to snoop and I'm very relaxed. What should I do though I know he's lieing but I fee like I look like a crazy person. I just want to knew if he is a cheater even if it's in the past
Gloria25 Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Eight months is kinda short to make demands - especially if you two haven't had the "exclusive" talk. If you two agreed to be exclusive, I would request that he, you, and the ex have a meeting and clear the air. If he wants to be with you, then he, in front of you, should tell his ex that the ex is inappropriate. That way NO ONE has any misunderstandings and/or assumptions. 1
Author rosessosweet Posted November 25, 2014 Author Posted November 25, 2014 We Have been exclusive for 8 months. he clams to not like her cuz she cheated on him and what's why they broke up. I'm not gong to meet her cuz i think I made it pretty clear to her when i texted her. The issue I'm having is the lying he's doing about basicaly using this ex to cheat on a previouse girlfriend
guest569 Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Why are you and your boyfriend's ex texting each other?? 1
Author rosessosweet Posted November 25, 2014 Author Posted November 25, 2014 I guess at first i thought they were just friends and i had no prob with them talking, but then he told me they dated for a year and I said that i don't think its appropriate to text someone who you've slept with and dated (and cheated on you). Having friends that are girls is totally fine with me but once i learned there past i asked nicely if he could stop talking to her. He did, he sent her a message saying leave me alone. A month later she texts him that i don't love him, cuz if i did id let him talk to whoever and then she proceeded to tell him she's single. he showed me the texts and I was pissed and she def did not get the hint to lay off so i texted her off his phone a nice little, to the point message, telling her to go away. Its a little messed up. I guess in the back of my head I think that she might talk to him.. but i don't want to go threw his phone like a crazy girlfriend i really want to trust him.. but its hard when he does stuff to make me question loyalties
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