Does the pain of knowing that your ex is with someone else ever go away (Updated)

[Pascoe]

My Ex just had her aunt watch our child one night so she could leave early the next morning to go on a day trip with her boyfriend. I only found out because her aunt spilled the beans when I picked her up the next day. I can't really avoid knowing in cases like that, but it sure hurts more when I have to hear it from someone else and my reaction is out there for all to see. Plus I have to gather up my wits and act like everything is A-OK in front of my kid. I'm thinking that time is the only thing to help although I'd try anything to detach quicker.

 

 

I know it is difficult. You want to have a breakdown but you can't for the sake of your child... I wouldn't worry too much about your reaction in front of her aunt. I know you probably don't want your ex to know how you reacted but it is better than having a breakdown in front of your child. Your child looks up to you and sees you as their invincible protector. Being their for your child is the most important thing in your life.

 

If you can figure out something other than time that will help detach quicker get a patent and become a billionaire. I will take the first two orders!!!

[JollyDays]

I have been in

NC

for 3 weeks and today I have an urge to text my ex and tell him my current emotional state. We live 4 hours apart and he ended meeting someone closer that he is now seing. I decided to just go

NC

and move on.However ,the fact that he is with someone is eating up inside. Its been 2 weeks after all

so

I am sure why its still bothering me. ,ughh ,I am just jealous. I keep thinking about them going on dates, sleeping together and him being happy but me being alone and suffering from a broken heart.

So

I feel like sending him a text telling him how I am effected with this. I don't expect him to respond. I just want to get that off my chest.

 

So

would this make me feel better or worse?

 

From personal experience, don't text, call, or email him. It just makes you look super desperate, and stokes the egos of the dumper.

 

 

I remember years ago struggling with a long distance breakup, and trying to explain to her how she hurt me. And you know what she fired back over email? "JUST ****ING GET OVER IT!". That clear and concise, even if it hurt like hell.

 

 

Yep, you just have to get over it, because all it'll do is erode your confidence further, give you a false hope of reconciliation, and he'll get the pleasure of thinking he's some kind of God to women. There's billions of men out here, and I know that there's someone out there who's perfect for you.

 

 

It may not seem like it right now, but to use a sports analogy, you're a free agent. You were released, and now it's time to visit other "teams", and sign on with someone else. Sorry for the sports analogy...lol.

Edited December 6, 2014 by JollyDays