The Poster Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 (edited) We only dated for a month and a half. I've only known her for two and a half months. The last few weeks weren't even that good. Not bad by any means, but not the same. I've never had such an amazing connection with someone when we met. We were on the same page in everything that mattered. It just seemed like we fit so wonderfully. This was my first relationship since my first one ended over 3 years ago. I thought after all the struggling and suffering, that I finally found someone amazing again. Someone I could give my heart too, and I did. I am so unfortunate with this stuff. I wish she decided we weren't the right fit a month or so ago. Instead, it happened right after I started falling hard for her. I'll never understand how hearts can change so fast. It's like her passion for me just died. Not long ago, hearing my voice and talking to her was the only thing that got her through her tough days. I don't know. I treated her so well too. An amazingly passionate, emotional seven weeks. Then two weeks of a little rain, then...over. Just like that. I just don't get the balance of the universe sometimes. Edited November 25, 2014 by The Poster
EmbeddedCortex Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 You guys only dated for 8 weeks right? It'll pass. I certainly understand the infatuation that can occur during that short time, but better that things end at 8 weeks, rather than 8 months, or 8 years, when you're brain's wiring has changed and it becomes even harder. Also, some people just like to "date" and not really jump into a relationship, which is why it's important to have clear communication about this stuff from the beginning if at all possible. Just read all the threads on these boards, mine included. 1
Author The Poster Posted November 25, 2014 Author Posted November 25, 2014 (edited) You guys only dated for 8 weeks right? It'll pass. I certainly understand the infatuation that can occur during that short time, but better that things end at 8 weeks, rather than 8 months, or 8 years, when you're brain's wiring has changed and it becomes even harder. Also, some people just like to "date" and not really jump into a relationship, which is why it's important to have clear communication about this stuff from the beginning if at all possible. Just read all the threads on these boards, mine included. Yeah, I understand that. Really, I do. This just seemed way more than infatuation or lust. There was serious potential, and I don't just say that just to say it. My problem is I'm sensitive and emotional so I can get attached really easily if the girl is right. It's happened to me before with girls I've crushed hard on, and it was upsetting when I realized it wasn't going to happen, but it wasn't unbearably painful like this is. It hurts. I know anything can happen but I'm actually stunned things fell apart so damn fast after everything we said and shared with eachother. The timing is just really unfortunate. I felt like I went through so much getting over my first gf. It took me 2 years. It was only a few months when I felt like I was really ready to try again, and then I met this girl and I thought it was my reward. Now, I'm going through those hopeless, terrible feelings that I just gone done dealing with again. Edited November 25, 2014 by The Poster
andilyn1 Posted November 25, 2014 Posted November 25, 2014 Sometimes we just end up having such a connection with someone, that it makes it that much harder to get over. I don't have any magic cure for it, as I'm going through those awful and miserable feelings of a breakup right now myself, but just remember this will get better in time. I know it hurts so bad right now. I really can relate. But just take it one day at a time. That's what I am trying to do. This pain won't last forever. It will lessen over time. Right now though, you kinda just gotta strap in and hold on for the wild ride. It sucks. I hate the emotions and pain that come with a breakup with someone you truly love. Hang in there!
Author The Poster Posted November 25, 2014 Author Posted November 25, 2014 Sometimes we just end up having such a connection with someone, that it makes it that much harder to get over. I don't have any magic cure for it, as I'm going through those awful and miserable feelings of a breakup right now myself, but just remember this will get better in time. I know it hurts so bad right now. I really can relate. But just take it one day at a time. That's what I am trying to do. This pain won't last forever. It will lessen over time. Right now though, you kinda just gotta strap in and hold on for the wild ride. It sucks. I hate the emotions and pain that come with a breakup with someone you truly love. Hang in there! Thank you. In an odd way, I feel bad for even feeling so awful about this. It wasn't a long relationship at all, yet I feel like I've known her forever. That's how strong the connection was. I didn't even think I fell in love her, but based on how I feel now, I must have. Good luck to you on your road to peace and happiness. I have faith you'll get there sooner than you think.
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