Eddie8 Posted November 24, 2014 Posted November 24, 2014 My girlfriend and I broke up for reasons I'm still not 100% clear on and I don't know if she is either. Anyway after deciding to go NC for the past 2 and a half weeks, she rings me at 4am in the morning, I answer and keep it nice and friendly until she starts to break down on me, I ask what's wrong and she says nothing! Anyway after a little catch up and not really answering any of my questions as to why this was happening we end the call not knowing if I'll hear from her again! So the next day after feeling a little bit hurt and annoyed that my feelings and emotions had been stirred up again(as I do want her back), I decided to message her in the nicest way possible telling her I can't keep having bits and pieces of communication, so it's best we don't contact each other again unless she knows in her own head she wants me to be a part of her life romantically. She messaged back acknowledging it was a mistake to mess with my head and it won't happen again? I'm confident I did the right thing in giving a kind of ultimatum of all or nothing, but just curious what others might think or any past experience doing this type of thing! I am fully prepared to never hear from her again, obviously would love too but I know this isnt Hollywood! Thanks!
me85 Posted November 24, 2014 Posted November 24, 2014 It's best to stop talking to her all together. She's trying to keep you on the hook. Don't let her. She knows where you stand. You made yourself clear. Go have fun with friends and family and enjoy the holiday season!
Author Eddie8 Posted November 24, 2014 Author Posted November 24, 2014 Yeah I won't be initiating contact! Thank you, you too!
lemonsugar Posted November 24, 2014 Posted November 24, 2014 The hard bit start now. You cannot contact her again if she's like my ex you won't hear anything and that tells you all you need to hear!
me85 Posted November 24, 2014 Posted November 24, 2014 Yeah I won't be initiating contact! Thank you, you too! Good for you! I know it can feel completely impossible to stop talking to them or to make yourself ignore them when they contact you but you can. It just takes an incredible amount of will power. The reason it's so hard is because we're under the impression that if they're contacting us then they must miss us...but that is rarely the case. They primarily do it because they are trying to ease their guilt. Nothing more. What are your plans for Thanksgiving?
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