CaughtUp Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 There has to be a man out there who has a job and can take care of himself. A man who has enough money to treat a woman to a nice dinner and not expect to get laid in return. A man who is sweet to children and kittens. A man that if he has children he does all he can to take care of them and if he doesn't he isn't afraid to date a woman who does and he won't become jealous of the time she spends with her children and he tries to become a part of their life. A man who can fix a leaky toilet or go out to a swanky restaurant and feel comfortable in either situation. A man who likes to read and dance and watch sunsets as well as sports. A man who isn't afraid to show his emotions and knows how to deal kindly with his woman if she loses control of hers. A man that can cook. A man who can go to a party and have a few drinks and not have to get sloppy drunk to have a good time. A man that doesn't smoke. A man that is open minded and can debate a subject and not turn it into a full blown screaming match. A man that knows that as independent as a woman can be that she still likes flowers and to have the door opened for her and that if there is a strange noise in the middle of the night he is SUPPOSE to be the one to go check it out. And is it too much to ask that he be single and look good in a tux? A man that knows when he has been spending too much time with his buddies without being told and just surprises his girl with a night together just because he misses the way she laughs and makes him laugh.
HoldOn Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 I'm sure there is somewhere! The first step is to realize what you want, so good luck! It's good to have standards, but make sure you prioritize these and decide which are most important to you. What was important to me was having a reliable guy who would call when he said and never be late, had a job with benefits, would pay for me (part of the time), would open doors for me, have a college degree and be smart and funny. I found him! (but nobody's perfect. He does smoke... Well, so do I.)
tanbark813 Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Well, I would guess that there are men that have most of those characteristics, and a small percentage that have them all. But unless you're a woman who's as equally giving and perfect as the man you described, I wouldn't expect to be able to land a guy like that.
XNemesisX Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 This sounds like you have described a perfect man here!~ Nobody is perfect though, and it would actually probably be hard to find someone wtih ALL of those characteristics. And HEY what is wrong with smoking! Actually, I have had a few guys tell me they couldn't date me unless I quit and you know what? I picked the cigarettes over them! Yeah I know, I know. I need to quit dammit.
HoldOn Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 I have had a few guys tell me they couldn't date me unless I quit and you know what? You can find a nice smoking guy to date! No guilt trips.
Author CaughtUp Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 I don't think I described the perfect guy. I think those are just some basic things. I mean he may flip off people while he drives (I do) or swear ( I do) or a blue million other things that really aren't that big of a deal (at least in the long run). Also, I think that I could give in return any of the things I described. I like to watch football and basketball and Aqua Teen Hunger Force and South Park I like to go clubbing and I like to read and dance and talk about world events and watch a sunset and spend time with my friends or alone and with my man.... OH and one I left off the list KNOWS WHEN TO TAKE A BATH WITHOUT BEING TOLD!!
HoldOn Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Yeah, but does he really have to cook and enjoy sunsets? Most of those things are pretty given, but you do have some specifics in there.
WithOrWithoutYou Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by YX32Nemesis Actually, I have had a few guys tell me they couldn't date me unless I quit and you know what? I picked the cigarettes over them! Yeah I know, I know. I need to quit dammit. Actually, as much as I think smoking is a nasty habit, you did the right thing. The very first thing they tried to do was control you - a bad sign. Encouraging you to quit is one thing, even nagging you about it or asking you to not do it when you were with them or in their house or car would be ok, but making it an ultimatum before they will grace you with their presence? Yuck.
WithOrWithoutYou Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by CaughtUp There has to be a man out there who has a job and can take care of himself. A man who has enough money to treat a woman to a nice dinner and not expect to get laid in return. A man who is sweet to children and kittens. A man that if he has children he does all he can to take care of them and if he doesn't he isn't afraid to date a woman who does and he won't become jealous of the time she spends with her children and he tries to become a part of their life. A man who can fix a leaky toilet or go out to a swanky restaurant and feel comfortable in either situation. A man who likes to read and dance and watch sunsets as well as sports. A man who isn't afraid to show his emotions and knows how to deal kindly with his woman if she loses control of hers. A man that can cook. A man who can go to a party and have a few drinks and not have to get sloppy drunk to have a good time. A man that doesn't smoke. A man that is open minded and can debate a subject and not turn it into a full blown screaming match. A man that knows that as independent as a woman can be that she still likes flowers and to have the door opened for her and that if there is a strange noise in the middle of the night he is SUPPOSE to be the one to go check it out. And is it too much to ask that he be single and look good in a tux? A man that knows when he has been spending too much time with his buddies without being told and just surprises his girl with a night together just because he misses the way she laughs and makes him laugh. Damn, I may be the "perfect guy"! (I do like sex though...). Just kidding, I'm far from perfect, but your list did make me wonder why the hell I'm still alone.
Author CaughtUp Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 Forgive me did I leave out "A Man That Likes Sex"? hee hee Sorry because that is #1 on the list. and HoldOn the specifics were just..hmmmm how shall I say to round out the picture I mean can he soft, sweet and masculine.
HoldOn Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 No, I totally get you. But are you sure you aren't describing a gay man? .... I mean dancing and kittens and cooking? Oh my.
Author CaughtUp Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 to much to find the metrosexual huh?
HoldOn Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Well, just add to the list "A man who likes sex WITH WOMEN" and I think you are set.
Hund1976 Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 I don't mind treating a woman to a few nice dinners, but I would hope to get some booty eventually.
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