Nomad Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Hi, question for everybody. What does it mean to "scare a girl away?" Does it mean coming on too strong, showing her too much affection too soon, or what? And WHY do girls (or guys) get scared away? whyy be scared by someone showing affection towards you? Isn't that what people want?
fundamental Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Well they could be scared because they: 1. like you a lot and not now how to deal with the feelings that might come with liking someone. 2. might not like you as a romantic partner but as a friend 3. afraid of a relationship for various reasons 4. afraid because other guys she had feelings for came on strong and hurt her in the end 5. think you are being fake (just another guy wanting to get into her pants) 6. has other options ---this is probably the #1 reason IMO 7. annoyed, especially if she really doesnt like you 8. has a boyfriend and is afraid of developing feelings for you--strong enough to cheat or confuse her situation. It's coming on too strong and showing affection too soon. Funny thing is if you don't show enough she will think you don't like her and that you are playing games. Women are weird. It has to be the right balance. Show affection by being "friendly" with her --not being her friend or trying to be her future husband. Have other things to do in life so that she will possibly become more interested. Don't scare her away by buying 12 dozens roses on the the first date or even on the 10th. Some women like stuff like that but women who know how men are get scared because they feel they know exactly whats going to happen next. In the past, I have made mistakes like that before...coming on too strong. Then days, weeks, maybe a month later after giving up, the girl tries to stick to me like glue. Always let the woman show affection first!!!!! If you don't think she will, SHE WILL... that's if she likes you.
Author Nomad Posted March 19, 2005 Author Posted March 19, 2005 thanks for the advice....I guess part of the reason I might come on a bit strong sometimes is just cause I'm lonely & really eager to be with somebody. it's like if I don't tell them how I really feel, the moment will pass & I'll be alone again.
WhereSpiritsRoam Posted March 19, 2005 Posted March 19, 2005 Originally posted by Nomad thanks for the advice....I guess part of the reason I might come on a bit strong sometimes is just cause I'm lonely & really eager to be with somebody. it's like if I don't tell them how I really feel, the moment will pass & I'll be alone again. I do the same thing, Nomad. I mean well, but my enthusiasm backfires. We have to learn to care, but not care that much.
fundamental Posted March 19, 2005 Posted March 19, 2005 Originally posted by Nomad thanks for the advice....I guess part of the reason I might come on a bit strong sometimes is just cause I'm lonely & really eager to be with somebody. it's like if I don't tell them how I really feel, the moment will pass & I'll be alone again. Sometimes being too eager and thinking too much kills the situation. I understand it can be difficult to gauge how much interest you should show. Don't show too much in the beginning. Only show them interest when they earn it. The more they earn your interest, the more you show.
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