Puma Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 hey folks, dont know if anyone of you remember me, but i was there or here on this site seeking advice as you all are. that was 4 mths ago...and ive gained so much knowledge that i want to share with the boys out there..women are welcomed to comment also, it would prove my points actually haha so: to all the guys crying and whining over that loved one that got away..best advice i can give ya is to GET OVER IT!! concentrate on who you are, ur pride, ur priorities, the present, the now, move on and experience life the way its meant to be experienced!! she might have got away..but there are many out there..so there was somethin special bout that one you say? well she isnt the only one in the world!! forget all that crap that we all have one person out there for us only..guess what? thats all bullcrap created by hollywood to sell movies and put ideas into womens heads humans are compatible with more than person..so do what you have to do and move on, its for the best. BUT if you are reading this and still thinking bout ur ex and getting back together..the best motivator to gettin anyone back is to date aroudn and let them know about it...jealousy will kick in trust me!! even if she dont care bout you anymore..it will get to her no matter how hard she tries to front. women are like that..the most indepent and secure put up thier mask to hid their feelings but it will get to them. and men...if you need advice or help on how to meet more women regardless of your age, color, physical appearance..let me know i know i can help you meet more women by helping you with what matters most..yourself. LESSON NUMER ONE!! STOP STOP..i repeat..STOP BEING NICE!! women do not like nice guys
bluetuesday Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Originally posted by Puma to all the guys crying and whining over that loved one that got away..best advice i can give ya is to GET OVER IT!! she might have got away..but there are many out there..so there was somethin special bout that one you say? well she isnt the only one in the world!! forget all that crap that we all have one person out there for us only.. this is good, healthy advice. get over her. you're right. there are more of us than you can shake a stick at. LESSON NUMER ONE!! STOP STOP..i repeat..STOP BEING NICE!! women do not like nice guys oh dear. this is wrong. many women do like nice guys. i am one of them.
Author Puma Posted March 17, 2005 Author Posted March 17, 2005 so you like nice guys because you can take advantage of them or because youre insecure? do you liek ur men to be needy, insecure, clingy, and emotional?? isnt that a WUSS! nice guys are boring..plain out. nice guys are friends to women not boyfriends. women do not want a man that possesses qualities that their own girlfriends have.
bluetuesday Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 where the hell are you getting your information? and do you actually know any women? i don't want to take advantage of a man and i'm hardly insecure. some girls might think nice guys are boring. real women know what we've got when we've got one.
Fun2BMe Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 What advice would you give women to get over their ex? Should they make them jealous too or do men not like women who make them jealous? I tried to make one of my boyfriend's jealous once - he got so hurt and insecure that he broke up with me so is it different for men than with women or is that just him?
bluetuesday Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by Fun2BMe What advice would you give women to get over their ex? Should they make them jealous too or do men not like women who make them jealous? why would you want to make him jealous? i thought you wanted to get over him. to get over him, don't have contact with him. it hurts but it works. fill up your time with other activities. change your routine, learn a new hobby, whatever. trying to make him jealous is not only pointless (if you want to get over him) and childish, it will mean you're still focusing on him and not getting over him. I tried to make one of my boyfriend's jealous once - he got so hurt and insecure that he broke up with me so is it different for men than with women or is that just him? game playing will work with some, but probably not those who have much potential as a decent partner. trying to make someone jealous is an immature way to deal with them. it shows how insecure and needy you are and it's terribly hurtful to them, as your former boyfriend discovered.
HoldOn Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 women do not like nice guys Can you define what you mean by nice? My two best girlfriends and I are in love with "nice" guys. So, I think you are wrong. Perhaps it is only bitchy girls who like the jerks? I have been involved with not-nice guys in the past. It was a mistake and almost ruined my life. I don't know why I liked them in the first place. But after it was over, I went right out to look for a nice, normal guy.
moimeme Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 so you like nice guys because you can take advantage of them or because youre insecure? do you liek ur men to be needy, insecure, clingy, and emotional?? isnt that a WUSS! nice guys are boring..plain out. nice guys are friends to women not boyfriends. women do not want a man that possesses qualities that their own girlfriends have. There have almost been as many 'nice guys don't get dates' threads as there have been 'am I pregnant' and 'is my penis too small' threads. Your definition has nothing to do with a nice guy. You describe men who may not kill people, but that's not the only characteristic that defines 'nice'. The insecure, clingy, emotional guy is a subtype and not all that common, IMHO. Someday, when you're a woman, then perhaps you can speak from the perspective of a woman. But to claim to know what some, much less all, women want is just bogus. Do a LS search on 'nice guys'. You'll be reading for hours.
Author Puma Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 thanks to you all who show some interest in this topic (keep it comin!) now let me get to all of your comments: bluetuesday: 1. im gettin my information from experience..my own and those of friends and even strangers. it is said that "the wisest people learn not only from their own mistakes, but also from the mistakes of others". 2. i know A LOT of women 3. i think most women dont even know what they want, they only know what they dont want. Fun2beme: if your trying to get over your ex..then why would you need to get him jealous? if ur tryin to get back with him..then you can do that, but since it appears you are not, then just focus on yourself. go out with your friends, discover yourself, keep busy, have some fun!! plenty of guys out there..if you want him back im pretty confident that ur drive of wanting "that what you cannot have" is overpowering your thoughts..get over him. as for gettin one of your past bf's jealous..u did yourself a favor, trust me. if he broke up with you because of that..he was INSECURE. you dont want a guy like that in the first place..go find yourself someone with some real confidence..cause afterall, im sure even all you women can agree on me on thiconfidence is sexy. HoldOn: for a bit of clarification, when i speak of a "nice guy", typically im referring to those men that go out of their way to please a women, get attached, feel the need to prove themselves to be liked, in general they do "nice" things. you say u liek nice guys..but yet you were attracted to those jerks in the past right? you were attracted to them for a reason...perhaps they didnt try to please you everytime they saw you, or perhpas they actually posed a challenge for you that intrigued you. if they were a bad boy..then the danger appeal was there to begin with and you liked that. bitchy girls like guys they can take advantage of; therfore, when a man that can play their game comes along they are surprised and pleased that there actually exists a man that will not bow down at her feet for her approval. moimeme: glad to see u keep up searchin the site. my def has everythin to do with a nice guy..i used to be one of the very "nice guys" im referrin to. seeing how it got me nowhere i developed new ways of thinking and being..that dramtically changed my perspective on things and women. i can pretty much guarantee you that if you were to leve your computer right now to go find 10 guys..8 out of those woudl be insecure to a certain point. and since i do not have the time to search and read for hours..maybe you could do it for me..or by the sound of it, you already have.
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