Need some advice please

[confuseddd]

My boyfriend I have been together for nearly 6months and he moved to North Carolina. This isn't about coping with the long distance. but sometimes he just irks me. He is a Christian, and I'm Hindu and thats where the problem lies. I respect his him and his religion, but seems to think my religion is hocus pocus which makes me upset. I'm not a very religious person, but I don't like anybody making fun or not being tolerant towards me due to my religion. Whenever I discuss this with him he says he didn't mean it, but it happens more than once. Everything else is great so I don't really know what to do? Do I let it go, or should I leave because of religious difference.

[Wings]

I don't think religious difference is the crux of the problems. Mutual respect and understanding are clearly missing in the picture. What's wrong with having different religion? After all, faith is personal.

 

I think it's important to set both your expectations right. Is he willing to accept a non-Christmas gf/wife? If yes, he has to learn to stop giving you bad vibes and accept the differences.

 

My ex-bf told me from the very beginning that he's ok with me not being a Catholic, but his children have to be raised in Catholic ways.

He gave me his terms, and I made informed decisions.

 

Talk to him. Find where he stands. Find a common ground. Good luck!

[SadBabyGirl]

Im sorry hun but that just sounds so ignorant it hurts me too. I have a deep love for hindus, muslims, all ppl of the world. My ex bf use to always talk crap about hindus and buddhists saying that you might as worship your teddy bear or something. I told him go take a religions class in college. It was sick he had his masters and was ignorant about religions and cultures.I would tell him it really hurts me when u act this way towards my religion, i don't to yours an besides if we love eachother why does religion have to come in the way? Why bring it up dude? And the just jk part yeah that would irk me too. I had an uncle once that use to call my ex bf a Camel Jockey. That really hurt me coz i loved that man and it insulted me, especially when people made fun of muslims which he was. I would definitely talk to him about it .....but I think by talking smack about your religion personally if it were me in you shoes id be insulted, sad, it would really hurt me more then probably the religion itself because it is what I am...and its like is he accepting me for me or ...Putting "ME" down?????well maybe u get where im comin from lol....My new bf and I have two diff religions now but we practice each together and things are more peaceful. I wish you two all the best! Namaste!

[RecordProducer]

Religious differences and any other defferences ARE personality problems,

because they often shape our characters. For some ridiculous reason certain

religions and races and profiles of people believe that they're better and

the others are hocus pocus. Often the truth is quite the opposite.

Christianity was accepted by the poor people, because it gave them hope in

the difficult times, and was accepted by the rulers, because religion made

it easier for them to rule and manipulate the masses. The Christian religion

had burnt people at stake and executed some great scientists, because they

didn't want the world to become more civilized. Any advancement would have

jeopardized their power. They knew that they could rule the masses only if

the people were ignorant. Unfortunately they were wrong. Even in the era of

high technology like ours, people still obey to a fake institution. The

Inquisition that killed people unmercifully came from the Christianity. Six

million Jews were killed by Christians during the Holocaust.

Of course, there are good things about the Church, but I don't think anyone

is a better person because of the idea of god.

So maybe if you tell him that his religion is a hocus pocus too, he will

understnad how much it hurts when he says that to you.

My boyfriend and I have a huge disagreement of political attitudes. We even

had a big fight concerning that matter, because I find myself personally

hurt by his beliefs. However we decided not to argue about politics in the

future. People can't possibly agree on anything unless one of them is the

I-don't-have-an-opinion type of person.

Explain to him that whatever he think he should keep for himself and respect

you or not be with you. Just like if you cooked something he didn't like, he

might say "I am sorry, this is way too spicy for me" or "I just ate, I am

not hungry" although you will be disappointed. But he wouldn't take the

plate and throw it to the garbage saying that he's never tried anything yuck

like that.

Same with everything else in the relationship.