Wolfy10 Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 My ex of 4 years broke up with me 3 months ago because she said “It felt like it doesn’t even matter if I was in your life or not” I stopped giving her my attention like I used to which was true I began to get comfortable. I did the entire do’s and don’ts of break ups like beg, cry etc. So I began NC, after 5 weeks I went to talk to her it was little weird at first but then it was ok small chats I tried to become her friend again, At one point I asked if I’m a nuisance talking to her she told me far from it I thought things was going great. Then one day during the week after NC she asked me do I really want to be her friend I lied and said yea. She said how can you go from being madly in love with someone to being just friends she told she doesn’t feel happy talking to me all she feel is pain and anger. She told how her anger is building up so much just talking to me right now. I tried to explain lets work it out and be friends but she wasn’t hearing it. So I ask her two questions do you still think about me and will you unblock me from whatsapp. For the first questions she refused to answer then she agreed to unblock me from whatsapp. I haven’t talked to her since then for 4 weeks now, I want to give this one last shot. During NC I got myself together dated partied bettered myself but I still miss her, I’m at the point that if she rejects me I can deal with it and get over it yea I will be little hurt and upset but not like the first time. What I really need advice on is taking her to dinner. Me and her sister were really cool while I was in the relationship she always use to help me plan surprises for my ex. Should I ask her sister to help take her to a surprise dinner, because I feel like if I ask my ex straight up she is going to say no, my ex is the type when she sees me her mind always forgets the bad, but if I just text she will just remember the bad in me and not the good. Or do you guys think my best bet is to ask my ex straight up to dinner?
carhill Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 If you're young, like in your twenties, consider four years a good run, learn from it and move on. Perhaps your and her paths will cross again with those lessons on board, for both of you. You've already pursued her after she broke up with you and were rebuffed. If she had wanted to contact you during the last four weeks, she would have. IMO, leave the ball in her court and focus on moving forward and, again if young, look around at the multitudes of other young ladies who are or could be equally or more important in your life in the future. There's billions of humans on the planet and, good on ya, one was more important to you than the rest for awhile. That can happen limitless times in life. Or never. Whatever you do, don't do an end run through her sister. You'll thank me later.
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