MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 He didn't even have time to come over to break up last night. It's always something but usually related to his work. I kept saying I understand and he kept saying he's sorry, it's the way his life is and has been for the last several years (and the reason why he is single now). So on the phone today, I said it wasn't going to work out (very sadly). He agreed and was sorry. I was sorry too. I can't sit at home for 4 months while he's away at work, I can't deal with that and he said he didn't expect me to sit around and wait. Geez how do military wives do it?! So I guess that's that, it's over, my rebound relationship. Time for me to regroup and figure out my life I guess. Go home, eat all the ice cream and chocolate I can find, and finish off that bottle of wine I started last night.
Barby Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 I see you're not seeking advice...so all I can really say is I'm sorry I hope you begin to feel better and binge eating/drinking is not the answer. BUT anyway I hope the next relationship you find works out better where he'll be able to be with you more often.
theone44 Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 He didn't even have time to come over to break up last night. It's always something but usually related to his work. I kept saying I understand and he kept saying he's sorry, it's the way his life is and has been for the last several years (and the reason why he is single now). So on the phone today, I said it wasn't going to work out (very sadly). He agreed and was sorry. I was sorry too. I can't sit at home for 4 months while he's away at work, I can't deal with that and he said he didn't expect me to sit around and wait. Geez how do military wives do it?! So I guess that's that, it's over, my rebound relationship. Time for me to regroup and figure out my life I guess. Go home, eat all the ice cream and chocolate I can find, and finish off that bottle of wine I started last night. Hey there i ain't trying to be funny,but watch "marry with children" that will help u to get over some-one
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 Yeah I don't have TV working yet (just moved) so I'll haven't rent a cheezy movie tonight. I had a long conversation with a good friend yesterday (male) and I have other friends who understand what is going on and they're all just a phone call away. I only had 2 glasses of wine and half a chocolate bar LOL and my kids are with me for a few days now, so that will help. I had bought the bf a gift and it's still at my place. I gave it to him, but it's pretty big and he didn't take it with him that day as he wanted make room for it (it's a framed picture - a numbered print). I told him he needs to come by and pick it up when he has a chance. He said he would, and I hope he does otherwise I'll be selling it on e-bay!! He has no idea how much I paid for it. I want to start dating again soon, and I should post this on the dating forum. How do I take it more casually and not give out signals - I really don't want to jump in bed with anyone soon, and I also don't want to fall for anyone or vice versa. I just want to have a good time going out with somebody without any expectations of sex and/or a second date. On the other hand, if he's the one who is against a second date and I like him, I'll have to learn how to deal with that too. I guess I could wear granny gitch - then I'd be too embarassed to have sex with the guy!
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 21, 2005 Author Posted March 21, 2005 I left him a voicemail the other day to call me if he felt we still had some things to talk about. He didn't call back so today I emailed him the "letter" I had never planned on sending. Only I modified it quite a bit. He called. Actually, he called several times until I finally got back to my desk after lunch (he admitted to it). He said he felt like crap, so I'm wondering if he knew we "broke up" over the phone?! We talked, it was very sweet, and he is still in love with me and wants me, but he understands that the way he is makes it very hard and the fact that he is going away. He said he is going to reply to my email and put alot of his thoughts into words that way. He is going to come over on Good Friday. He asked if I wanted to know if he thought I would find someone else while he is gone...and I said yes I want to know what you think, he said "no" he doesn't think I'll find someone else. Okay, I have a not-so-good track record if you've read any of my posts. I don't want to hurt him either. I have a casual date tomorrow night with someone else, just a quick dinner, and I only have an hour. Me and this new guy are becoming friends, online, and I have to make sure I explain that I don't need anything more than that right now. Should I reject his offer to help me with my home reno's? I hope I can convince myself that I don't need romance right now - that i need to take time to myself since my marriage separation. My BF (ex?) thinks and hopes that we will be together when he gets back. I would like that very much, as long as these issues can be resolved and he makes me an important part of his life.
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