TrebleClef Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 ...if I didn't end up in another dead end relationship....If it could be actually be called a relationship. I take it that the message: "Low-Self esteemed nincompoop who'll accept anything" hasn't been totally erased from my forehead. *heavy sigh*. I met this young man who seemed normal at first. Christian, handsome, educated, articulate, etc. He's a member of the fraternity that are the "brothers" to my sorority. I really liked that! We hadn't known each other long and he'd already professed love for me (insert "Psycho" theme music). I've caught him in several lies. He told me he was closing on a home, worked at a swanky restaurant as an Exec. Chef, had a car...but it was in the shop...the list of make-believe goes on. I did a background check to make sure he wasn't married, a murderer, pedophile, etc. Aside from some misdemeanors, he's clean. I noticed his immaturity early on but thought it was just my being too rigid, uptight and looking 4 a reason to say "I'm un-dateable" (as my BFF told me). It seemed like if I'm not stroking his ego, kissing his butt, batting my eyes and saying "yes dear *giggle*" he can't be bothered. When he doesn't like my reaction or response to one of his totally un-thought out, cold, mean, insensitive or cruel remarks about me or towards me he'll say "ok, we're done". I felt like I was 16 and back in high school trying to date. Since I wasn't allowed to date in high school, I guess I'm living my teen years now? When we were in the same state he got sick and was hospitalized. Although we hadn't known each other long, I stayed by his side. His mom (an RN) came to our state and took him back to their home state. He claimed that she just wanted to monitor him for a few days herself and then he'd return to our state. He's been there ever since! He'd allude to it being my fault that he's still in state b/c I haven't sent him a plane/bus ticket. He claims to have a position where he is now & is climbing the corporate ladder pretty quickly. My birthday was in September, he claimed to have something planned for me...if I could just get to where he is. Since I couldn't, I asked him to reveal it to me via Skype. That never happened. He claimed to have bought me this and that. I'd say "send it to me". He'd say "no, I want to give it to you in person". "When will that be?" I'd ask. He'd say: "When U send for me". o_O The latest: He called (a rarity). We're having a staggered convo abt a new club he's been initiated into. Dead silence (our convo's always seemed forced to me)...so I ask what's the weather like in his town. He tells me, I say same here then he mentions how close our states are in proximity and the weather is bound to be about the same. I ask which freeway leads to his state "duh & U have a Master's degree?!" I say: My Master's isn't in geography. He continues teasing. I get silent (my way of NOT saying the wrong thing). He laughs and tells me he loves me. I don't believe someone can love another so quickly and I reply "ok". He gets mad at that and says "OK?! I'm about to hang up on U". I tell him that wouldn't be wise. We continue this kindergarten back/ forth, he hangs up on me. He calls back repeatedly. I ignore. I post on social media, he comments. I ask him not to comment & then I say what I have been wanting to say for months now (but hadn't b/c I knew it meant that he'd go away). Guess what his response was? U guessed it: "We're done!". o_O
Tayken Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 This reads like something out of Mills and Boom. How old or young are you two?
Author TrebleClef Posted November 23, 2014 Author Posted November 23, 2014 @Tayken... Mills and Boom? I'm older, just not as experienced as I feel I should be (shrugs). He's 4 yrs younger than I.
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