skyblue707 Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 So...I went on a first "date" with this guy from okcupid. He was nice, but he's not for me and I don't want to pursue anything more on a romantic level. He called me today, but I didn't answer. I don't know, it would just be pointless to even talk to him more or have some sort of friendship with him. I use okcupid to want to find a serious relationship with. Not friends. Should I ignore him?
preraph Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Either ignore or tell him in one email he's nice but he's not a good match for you and then don't reply anymore.
Leegh Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Unless he was really bad, I would give him another chance. Perhaps you could meet him somewhere and just have a short date (nothing lengthy) then you can reevaluate things. It's best not to give someone your home address from meeting online, so it's probably best if you meet him somewhere. I admire him for calling, as I've had guys email, text for dates and it shows he has class for calling instead. 1
J2911 Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 So...I went on a first "date" with this guy from okcupid. He was nice, but he's not for me and I don't want to pursue anything more on a romantic level. He called me today, but I didn't answer. I don't know, it would just be pointless to even talk to him more or have some sort of friendship with him. I use okcupid to want to find a serious relationship with. Not friends. Should I ignore him? I would give him a courtesy call and say thank you for the date , but I don't think we will be a compatible match for whatever reasons . He must have liked the date enough to call you again so I think it's the polite thing to do is maybe return his call and say thank you but no thank you for the next date . Good luck! 4
todreaminblue Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 I agree with the other poster who said to give it one more...but...if you dotn ....be courteous and gentle but give him closure.......it would be what you would expect wouldnt it?....treat others how you yourself want to be treated....a short email or text ....just to say i enjoyed meeting you but I do not feel we would be compatible.....and wish him well...along those lines.....best wishes....deb 3
Lernaean_Hydra Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Honestly, if it was just a case of you "not feeling it" and he wasn't rude or a*hole or anything the kindest thing to do would be to be upfront and tell him straight (via text or email) you just don't feel you're compatible. Reserve the fade out for the jerks. 4
Tayken Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 So...I went on a first "date" with this guy from okcupid. He was nice, but he's not for me and I don't want to pursue anything more on a romantic level. He called me today, but I didn't answer. I don't know, it would just be pointless to even talk to him more or have some sort of friendship with him. I use okcupid to want to find a serious relationship with. Not friends. Should I ignore him? You mean the looks didn't fit the talk / lack thereof that you had before you met?
KatZee Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Or you can act like a grown individual and tell him that it was great meeting him but you don't feel that there was a romantic connection between you two. 1
somedude81 Posted November 23, 2014 Posted November 23, 2014 Just send him a text saying that you aren't interested in him. If he sends you any texts or calls you, just ignore him. You did your part. 1
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